[rutimadi]

I have been with my boyfriend for 1 yr. He is 32 and I'm 22. We work FIFO together to the same place. On site I see him for an hour maybe at night as we usually sleep together but have separate rooms. At home we usually hang out together, but we live seperatly and sometimes he comes to mine/ I go to his to sleep.

He has changed from when we first got together before he was so sweet texted me all the time, wanted to be with me, we talked, everything was great in the bedroom, and I was so happy, we were so in love.

These are my current problems;
- He doesn't want to hug or kiss me and ignores me when we are at work, alone in the bedroom. At home he won't kiss me or hug me unless I make a fuss. Once I cried cause he put his had over my mouth and I kissed his hand. This really upset me am I so gross? We haven't kissed for ages and he says its cause he doesn't like tongue in kissing... whhattt? Why? And why did he use to then?
- He is on his phone all the time... hes not even really doing anything just Facebook and stupid apps. It just upsets me that he would rather talk with his phone than me...
- His ex girlfriend lives at his house when he's at work... I know they don't see each other but this really bothers me... I have told him many times before and nothing has changed. his latest comment was 'you want to get over it hey'

He says I'm insecure and needy, but I don't understand how loving him is being needy and insecure... I have told him this before and he avoids the question.

Now this is one of the biggest parts.
I was so upset for weeks about this, but he never knew I was as I didn't want to embarrass or hurt him. We were in the bedroom, a few times now this has happened, and everything is going really great on my part and then halfway throughout or like 5 minutes in he just isn't into it at all anymore stops, and that's it, nobody finishes... I don't understand.

I think he's bored of me, maybe he doesn't love me anymore, although he assures me that if he didn't he wouldn't still be in this relationship.

Please help I love him so much but it is tearing me up. I'm so confused.

[talaniman]

Maybe his erectile dysfunction is frustrating to him to or he has the personality of a real boob that your love has blinded you too.

Don't take this personally as this appears to be his problem and since you cannot talk about it, I fail to see what's worth it about this fellow.

[joypulv]

It isn't possible to tell whether he is cooling off or whether you are indeed needy. Romantic love is supposed to evolve to a more comfortable love based more on respect and admiration and sharing, with much of the words and actions of romance saved for special occasions.

Your age might be a factor. Although you are both adults, 22 is still very close to teen years of great expectations about love, and not a lot of understanding of routine and compromise.

On the other hand, if his ex lives in his house (I don't understand your living arrangements at all), it's possible that they have a friendly, non-demanding relationship that he prefers over your neediness for lovey love.

I'm not saying that your need for love is needy at all! We can't know which of you is what - the two of you need to talk, and if it can't be resolved, then you should leave.

[Fr_Chuck]

If a ex is living at his house when he is not home. She is not completely an ex. But since you also seem to have separate bedrooms perhaps your relationship is not all that committed either

But men who have erection failures can get very insure and make up lies to cover.