[willblue18]

Yeah, lets all rub my feelings in my face. -_-

[talaniman]

I know it seems that way to you right now, and what we are asking you to do is a big huge hard thing. Sorry you don't have an adult to guide you through this and show you how. Many of us as adults remember how we felt, and know how YOU feel.

We went through this same screwed up situations too, and some just have more adult guidance than others at 13. Your mom has to work, and you have to fend for yourself pretty much, but just answer me one question.

Did she tell you don't have this girl at the house when she is gone?

We aren't throwing your feelings in your face, just trying to give you good orderly direction to help answer the question you asked. A question it took a lot of courage to even ask. Sometimes its hard when you care to tell someone the right thing.

[willblue18]

No, like I said before, she knows about it, and doesn't seem to care.

[talaniman]

Your mom's situation may be screwed up too.

[willblue18]

She works around the clock because she has 3 kids she needs to feed. My father literally couldn't help us any less. She works 20 hours and sleeps for 3 1/2. and the other half hour is for travel time. So yes, her situation is screwed up, but it's not something that can be helped.

[talaniman]

You are the oldest?

[willblue18]

I'm the oldest, my sister is 10 and my brother is 8.

[ScottGem]

I'm the oldest, my sister is 10 and my brother is 8.

How would you like it is someone was having sex with your sister, even if she was willing? I sympathize with your situation, but at 13 you need to take some responsibilities. Try to help you mom out, help mentor your siblings and not by setting the example of having sex at 13.

[talaniman]

You are very well written for a 13 year old (better than many adults to be honest, and your spelling and grammar, and sentence structure are darn near perfect), and you are a bit overwhelmed by all your responsibility. You have a LOT on your plate.

Your mom depends on you heavily, that's obvious. Too bad she isn't in a position to give you a break and do regular 13 year old stuff, that's fun and healthy. You seem to have no outlets for your frustrations and it turns to anger. That anger from frustration has to come out some way. Its understandable and normal that your friend runs to you.

You are probably the only solid thing in her life. That's a terrible burden for anyone.

[ScottGem]

OK, I initially had some concerns about this because 1) at 13 being "sex crazy" is unusual and 2) a 13 yr old boy being upset because his 13 yr old female friend wants sex is also unusual.

But now that you are answering your own question as two different people (newgirl18 is also using your computer), this screams troll.

[Curlyben]

Your newgirl18 account has been banned for misrepresentation and multiple accounts which are both in breach of this site's TOS.

[willblue18]

First off, I'm not even using a computer, I'm sitting in my house's family room doing this on my phone. Second, how would you feel if you were facing this and somebody says they think it's fake? Tell me how you would feel. Third, sure it's unusual. Why do you think I went to the trouble of finding a website to help me, creating an account, asking a question, and then coming back to answer questions about it if I wasn't serious. If it were a normal problem, I could use Google and be done in about five minutes.

[Oliver2011]

Some of us were thinking troll from the question. And then when I read newgirl's post and saw it was her very first post and it was on this subject, I knew it would be the same computer. Good catch!

Which state has the death penalty for trolls?

[talaniman]

I knew of your other account, but I didn't think you were a troll. I also knew you had an idea of what the right thing to do in your screwed up situation should be. Easy for others to say, and easier said than done.

[willblue18]

I know what I'm supposed to do, but I'd like to see you try standing up to the one person that's been there for you, the one person that you can depend on to be there when you need help. I know I should refuse it, but I also know that there's a chance if I do, I'm going to lose her. I just want it to stop, but still have her at the same time.

[ScottGem]

First off, I'm not even using a computer, I'm sitting in my house's family room doing this on my phone. Second, how would you feel if you were facing this and somebody says they think it's fake? Tell me how you would feel. Third, sure it's unusual. Why do you think I went to the trouble of finding a website to help me, creating an account, asking a question, and then coming back to answer questions about it if I wasn't serious. If it were a normal problem, I could use Google and be done in about five minutes.

We have ways to detect is someone creates an account using the same device. That both accounts were created from the same device is a fact. So what would YOU think if faced with that fact.

As to why you would do it, its not the first time, that someone has used this site to play a prank on the members here.

If this is real, then you have received the proper advice on how to handle it. If she will not take no for an answer when you try to explain that you are afraid of the health risks to her if she gets pregnant, of the risks to your future if that happens, of the moral and societal implications of your actions then you are better off without her.

[talaniman]

Doing the right thing is the hardest thing you will ever do, and hurts like hell sometimes while you do it, until the next time you have to do the right thing again.

Don't trade your honesty for the fear of losing her. You really do need to tell her she is hurting you by making you have sex, and stand up for yourself and she should appreciate your honesty, and stop hurting you. That's what real friends would do.

What's making it hard seems to be losing the ONLY friend you have, so you let her hurt you? Right? That's a screwed up situation too.