[brokendown1]

I got into a relationship with a 35 year old woman 2 years ago. I was also 35, We had sex after the second date and I automatically said to myself that she wasn't marriage material and decided to just have fun for a few months. Not sure if I was wrong to think that an easy girl is not marriage material. After 6 months we were still having fun! At that time I was madly in love with her. She was also in love with me. Later I found that she was still keeping in touch with an ex boyfriend with the purpose of going back to him if things between us didn't work out! I was devastated, but I decided to forgive her after she promised that she would stop talking to him. She made the case that she is getting older and wants to have kids and if we don't work out, she doesn't want to go out there to meet anyone new, so she would settle down for the next best thing!

Another year past by and I suspected that she was still having conversations with her ex, so I installed an app on her phone to see who she was texting and calling. Now I can see the messages that she sends him and how many times she calls him but I can't see the incoming calls and texts because of an app that she installed on her phone! They communicate at least 2 to 3 times per week! The messages are not telling me that they still see each other but she calls him baby and boo boo! I also found that she has another guy on her phones block list.

So she has at least 2 guys that she talks to and hides from me. Yesterday she sends a text to her girlfriend telling her that she doesn't know why she gets bored of men every 2 years! And that the guy that she's with now (me) asked her about having kids and she wanted to throw up. Meanwhile, she had been asking me to move in together and has been pressuring me to have kids for 1 year! The only thing that I can think is that she's been with too many men and she now has a need to start with a new relationship every few years!

Are all easy girls like this?

[Wondergirl]

I don't know about "easy girls." It does sound like she needs to sit down all by herself in a quiet room to figure out what she really wants in life.

Maybe it would be a good idea to cut out the spy stuff and just move on without her. It doesn't sound like she's your cup of tea. Find a woman who is devoted to you and you alone and who wants to have your babies.

[Alty]

We had sex after the second date and I automatically said to myself that she wasn't marriage material

This makes me laugh. You consider her easy, that she's not marriage material because she had sex with you the second date. You were there too, so I guess you're not marriage material either since you slept with her on the second date.

The only thing that I can think is that she's been with too many men and she now has a need to start with a new relationship every few years! Are all easy girls like this?

No. Just like all easy men aren't like this either. Look at yourself. You're easy, and you want to settle down. So it's not because she's easy, it's something else.

[talaniman]

Talaniman Rule - If you can't handle the romance you are in, don't complain, leave and do better.

Forget the ego tripping, and drama. She lied twice. If you have to snoop and bug a person, what the hell are you doing with them?

[tickle]

Gosh. I guess you have been played, broken, big time.

[talaniman]

To be honest, you are the one that was easy.

[jeremydweems3]

Not all, but most are. Most people, male or female, that are in their mid 30's and single usually have some issues. They're still single for a reason usually, no offense. I'm not making judgements, just trying to answer your question. Anyone who is lying to you constantly, talking to ex's behind your back, and making you feel pressured to make serious decisions you aren't 100 percent sure about, isn't the right person for you man. Sorry. But if she wants kids and you don't, then get out before it's too late for her to have kids if that's really what she wants. And if you don't, doesn't make you a bad person, then move on and go your separate ways.
Seems to me you both want different things, different MAJOR things. So, why drag it on any longer? If someone asked you the question that you just asked, what would you say? Think about it that way if it makes it any easier.

[kellb08]

I agree with the other comment. You had sex too didn't you, or did she have sex all by herself. Maybe to her you aren't to be trusted either, or to her you are the damaged goods son.