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    Nov 12, 2013, 04:43 PM
    Sex is too overwhelming?
    I am a female and have only been sexually active for the past 2 months, and I have not been able to have an orgasm. It starts to feel really good and I feel like I am going to have an orgasm, but then it gets overwhelming and I have to stop. After that I'm not turned on anymore and nothing seems to get me going again. This is super confusing, as I used to masturbate and I never had this problem when masturbating. What should I do differently?
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    Nov 12, 2013, 04:53 PM
    You used to masturbate? You don't any more? How is it overwhelming?
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    Nov 12, 2013, 04:57 PM
    I had a chronic masturbation problem so I stopped. When I say overwhelming I mean it's too pleasurable if that makes any sense.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 04:59 PM
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    When I say overwhelming I mean it's too pleasurable if that makes any sense.
    Please explain.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:03 PM
    It's hard to explain. It's like my whole body has this huge urge to move that is so strong I have to pull away.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:04 PM
    Don't stop, just be overwhelmed. You may be getting off and don't know it.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:04 PM
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    It's hard to explain. It's like my whole body has this huge urge to move that is so strong I have to pull away.
    Why not ride the wave and don't fight it?
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:05 PM
    It's like this uncontrollable urge to get up and run. I'd say it's like being a little kid being forced to sit too long until you just can't stay there anymore. It almost hurts.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CakeChips View Post
    It's like this uncontrollable urge to get up and run. I'd say it's like being a little kid being forced to sit too long until you just can't stay there anymore. It almost hurts.
    Sounds about right. Just let it happen.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:06 PM
    I tried to ride the wave and I swear it felt like I was going to pass out. I know it wasn't an orgasm because I had them when I used to masturbate. When I get physically overwhelmed it becomes impossible to enjoy.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:07 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CakeChips View Post
    When I get physically overwhelmed it becomes impossible to enjoy.
    How do you know? You haven't been at the end of "overwhelmed" yet.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:12 PM
    I hate the feeling when I'm in the overwhelmed stage. It feels wrong. It doesn't feel good at all. I tried to ride it out and I nearly passed out. Maybe I'm hyperventilating?
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CakeChips View Post
    I hate the feeling when I'm in the overwhelmed stage. It feels wrong. It doesn't feel good at all. I tried to ride it out and I nearly passed out. Maybe I'm hyperventilating?
    How is your health? Do you have any heart or blood pressure problems? Does this overwhelmed feeling come about at any other time? The French term for orgasm is "la petite mort," the little death. Not that anyone wants you to literally die, and you know your body best of all. Maybe one or more of our medical people will weigh in.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:22 PM
    I have no heart or blood pressure problems, but I do have diet problems. I'm a picky eater and I do not eat well. Lots of sugary foods and not enough healthy things like vegetables.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:25 PM
    Also, the overwhelmed feeling only comes when I feel the buildup that would usually end in an orgasm.
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:26 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CakeChips View Post
    Also, the overwhelmed feeling only comes when I feel the buildup that would usually end in an orgasm.
    How about just letting it happen one time?
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    Nov 12, 2013, 05:35 PM
    @wondergirl I'll try.
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