I don't know that any woman, married to a man for 32 years, who suddenly learns he fathered a child seven years ago- just gets over it!
It is more than just the fact that there is a 7 year old child resulting from his cheating. It is the lying, sneaking, secrets hidden, people knowing- and now about to be a hit on the bank account. To think someone has been faithful for all those years, turns out to be a cheater. Too much.
It would have been a different story had things been said, when they happened.
I presume he has had some contact with this other woman- did he continue to see her? I'd be wondering about more meetings, email, chat, etc. Has he ever met this child?
I don't know if you can ever forgive him, that is something only you can decide. What I would suggest is that you seek counseling on your own, to talk this through with a counselor who can help you sort out all the feelings you must be going through.
Even if you do decide to leave, or he leaves, you will still be left with much of the last decade to sort through, knowing what he had done, and kept a secret for so long.
All the best of luck.
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