[Montana_Church]

Me & my girlfriend were wanting to get married, and then she had to move about 50 miles away and her papaw won't let me see her cause he hates her dating, and he'd never allow me to see her, and she wanted to break up but we got back together and now she wants to break up but we still be friends, and she wants to date another girl too, and she says it probably won't last long and I'll be the first person she comes back to, what do I do to keep her? But then she is going to try to juggle me and the girl cause she loves us both, and she made it very clear she loves me more and I'm her #1 priority

But I don't know if I go can through pologomy and we've been together 9 months on the 13th

I'm not desperate, but we're in love. And she's bipolar so ik she can't help but act like that sometimes and I'm 16 & she's 15 and please no "You have your whole life, theres others" I Only Want Her OK?

But I love her and ik she loves me, and she does want to be with me, but ik there's always that part in her heart that I can't satisfy cause she is bi, and she wants to be with me, and her too, and I think I can live with that but I don't know I just want advice, but I don't want people telling me to dump her or leave, I only want suggestions on how to convince her that she should only be with me without hurting her, if I decide to try to do that. Please no negative comments, if possible I only want comments from people who was in my exact situation

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[Homegirl 50]

And to not have to go through pologomy and we've been together 9 months in the 13th

How old are you two?
Why in the world would you want to get back with and stay with someone under these circumstances?
Are you that desperate?

[odinn7]

You have your whole life, there's others. Move on.

[Homegirl 50]

You are 16 and she is 15. A 15 year old with mental issues. She does not know what she wants and you are thinking like a desperate 16 year old. This young lady is not emotionally healthy for a relationship. It you were her priority she would not be messing around with someone one else.
Leave this girl alone and get yourself emotionally healthy enough to see why you should not want to be waiting around for her.
What does polygamy have to do with any of this.

[Oliver2011]

Dump her and leave.

I was going to say you have your whole life, but Odinn beat me to it.

[Cat1864]

First, if her pawpaw doesn't want her dating and is her guardian, then she has to obey his rules. If she would be dating you behind his back and lying to him about the relationship, then you should stay apart until she is allowed to date.

Second, at 15/16, fifty miles is a long distance relationship (LDR). Even under the best of circumstances LDRs are difficult to maintain. When there are health issues and other restrictions such as relying on others to be able to visit, they are almost impossible to keep viable. This one isn't viable right now.

Third, she is learning more about her self and what she wants. You should take this time to do the same. I know you think you want only her and someday you may both be ready to try a relationship again. But for now you need to meet other people. Date other females. Expand your social experience. Dating does mean you have to be 'in love' or want more than to have fun or companionship for a dance, movie, etc.

Fourth, you should not try to remain friends with her if you want more than she can give. If all she has to offer you at this moment is friendship and you want hope of a relationship if not a full commitment, then let go of all forms of communications and her. You will only be hurting yourself and her if you try to be something you know you aren't.

You do have your life ahead of you and you are young. Those are not bad things. Every month or so there are stories of teenage sweethearts getting back together after time apart. In many cases, taking time to learn more and experience life has made their relationships stronger and healthier than they ever were. Or you may find someone else who will capture your heart and the feelings will be stronger and deeper than any you have experienced.

You won't know what the future holds until you let go of the past and start living in the present.