[kansan]

Sometimes I think I'm over him but then during the night I get scary dreams about him. When I wake up, I feel flustered and annoyed. I wish I could stop thinking about him all together. It is not that I mind him moving on with life, on the contrary, I've chatted with this person for almost two years, and the last ear of chatting we had nothing but fights. At the end of it, I felt drained and judged. He would say the most horrible things to me, such as me being evil and clingy. I feel guilty, and even after four months of having no contact whatsoever I can't stop wondering, maybe I do suck, and I a bad person. I can't stop thinking what he said is the truth. Because I made obvious mistakes that were my fault. I hated but loved him. I could never trust him, I felt he was lying all the time, because he contradicted himself so much, after awhile I began to do the same thing. I feel I can't trust anyone anymore.

[Oliver2011]

Stop it. You met someone, it didn't work out, and now it is time to move on. Stop beating yourself up over it. We have all been there and we have all survived.

Get your mind onto other things during the day. Go out with girlfriends, go see a movie, go to the gym, go for a walk/run/bike ride - keep that mind and body active. You will start thinking about him and the situation less and less.

[Homegirl 50]

Maybe your nightmares are more about how you feel about yourself than him. You made mistakes, you've acknowledged them now move on. Do something fun. This does not define your life