[liajones]

So I decided to go no contact and then finally he contacted me. Well in my case it was minimal contact since we have a son together but I kept it very civil and I was able to control myself and my feelings when he would come around to see his son. Well now he has contacted me about us during the no contact period neither did I or him talk about our relationship. He had asked me to go to some event here in our town and I accepted since he wanted to spend time with our son. We had a good time and I gave him a ride home since he came in his cousin car but then his cousin had left the even early he asked me for a ride to his house. So I took him and since he lives with his parents they wanted to see their grandson of course.

Well in the time being our son was inside his house and I had gone outside to get some toys and his sipee cup. Well My ex followed me out and that's when he poured everything out he said he knows he messed up and is going to be there for me and he'll do anything to get me and our son back to his side. I was so happy but at the same time I didn't know how to act. I don't want to jump on our relationship too soon I'm happy he wants to get back with me and I told him I still loved him and I will take him back but now what ?

How do I start our relationship new and let go of our past relationship? I want start fresh and happy and reattract my ex and I don't want to mess it up. Can anybody help me has anyone gone through something like this or what advise do you suggest?

[Fr_Chuck]

Actually it did not work, No contact is suppose to be just that NO CONTACT PERIOD it is not to get him back, it is to give you time to move on and live without them.

So it failed to do what it was suppose to do. No Contact is not a way to get a ex back.

So what now ? What was the problems that caused you to break up ? Before you move on with them, go to counseling, work out issues.

Next you never start "fresh" all of the old memories, old pains will come back fast when new issues happen

[talaniman]

Work on solving the problems that broke you up. Lay out some rules and boundaries you both can respect, and for gosh sake learn to talk and listen.

You exercised restraint and self control, and I doubt if No Contact played a part in this at all. More like you left the door open for your baby daddy. The emotional dust settled and you are trying again. Have you broken up before? Why? Why this time?