[madabouthair]

I'm 24 gay and my boyfriend's 28. We've been together for nearly 2 years now. I moved in with him and his mum in Sept. last year. Since then we have moved into our own flat. Been living there now for 3 months. I love him so much there is no signs of problems in our relationship. He loves cuddles and kisses but when we go to bed I get horny and go to touch him he says no touching sensitive parts, it's sleepy time. When we do have foreplay I instigate it and he just lays there. This only happens once or twice fortnightly, we don't really have sex but when we do I seem to do the work. Most of time he says he's tired or not in mood. He's also on heart tablets. Could these and his job be affecting our sexual relationship?

[CravenMorhead]

Libido issues can be cause by medication, stress, and exhaustion.

Though from what I read I am not sure these are the primary reason. Has sex always been this infrequent and unsatisfying? What I am reading is that he's a lazy lover that wants things on his terms and isn't willing to compromise. If this is his behaviour then you've got precious few choices. If this isn't and his problems with his libido are genuine then it might become difficult to remedy.

Have you talked to him about this? Might be a good first step, clear the air and see what's going on.

[talaniman]

Yes, his meds and job can kill his libido, and if he has heart problems it affects EVERYTHING. What are his heart issues? Kind of young for heart meds but sounds serious.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, all of these factors can cause and have an effect. You need to sit down and discuss this when you are not in bed. And he may need to see doctor and discuss the effects