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    Sep 23, 2013, 03:32 AM
    2 and a half year old boy and his dad
    I hope someone can help me with my dilemma

    I have a 2 and a half year old boy who his father loves him to death, he’s with me all the way, pregnancy and birth, they always say that the mother is the caregiver of the family but in my situation both of us are caregivers, his father changed and still change his diaper, he’s the one who takes him to pools and the beach, buying him his favorite stuff, etc.

    My main problem is that the boy doesn’t want his father, he doesn’t want his father to touch him of play with him or speaks to him and the attitude increases when I am around. I know his father understands that he’s just a boy but it breaks my heart seeing how his son treats him and with all that is done for him he still carries a grudge towards his father.

    I know deep down inside him he’s hurting when his son pushes him away and I don’t know what to do

    Please please I need advice on how to because am lost and where we live we don’t have experts that you can go to.
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    Sep 23, 2013, 04:57 AM
    Something is not right, if father is main care giver and always there, boy should not be doing this. Hat other issues are there ?
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    Sep 23, 2013, 08:36 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    something is not right, if father is main care giver and always there, boy should not be doing this. hat other issues are there ?
    I stopped working when I was 3 months pregnant and just started working 4 months now, my husband has his own business so work timing is in his hand and he spends more time with him. We fought couple of times in front of him and I was crying, am worried it affected him and that's why he's behaving this way towards the father, when we sit together our son gets Jealous.
    Please if you know what we should do please help :(
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    Sep 23, 2013, 09:13 AM
    Try asking your son when you are alone with him so he feels more open to talking. Ask him what is it that bothers you about daddy? Why don't you like him? Why do you act jealous when he is around mommy? You need to get in his little 2 year old mind and find out what is going on in it. Then if it is over your fight explain to him that some times adults have disagreements but they work things out.
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    Sep 23, 2013, 02:55 PM
    Children go through this phase. Often moms come here wanting to know why their little girl or boy won't let the be held by mommy. Don't forget, this is the terrible twos and a very critical time for children. I wouldn't make a big deal about it. This situation will. Change and probably revert to mom being the outsider.
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