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    Sep 21, 2013, 07:29 PM
    Should I tell his girlfriend I was with him the weekend after they broke up?
    My ex boyfriend broke up with his girlfriend to try again with me. I visited that week after they just broke up. It didn't go well at all between us when I visited the last night. He was very abusive and not the person I knew. She is back with him 1 or 2 weeks after I visited but she doesn't know I visited him, but all our friends on the island know about it too. Should I message her and let her know that I was there or should I just drop it? She is the same girl he cheated on me with as well. So I don't care for her at all but I feel bad for her. Advice?
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    Sep 21, 2013, 07:40 PM
    What will you get out of letting her know? Is this revenge?

    Keep it to yourself.
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    Sep 21, 2013, 07:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    What will you get out of letting her know? Is this revenge?

    Keep it to yourself.
    I Just don't think it's fair for him to lie to her the way he lied to me or that he should be able to hide who he is.
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    Sep 21, 2013, 07:47 PM
    Telling only will make you look like you are trying to get back at him, or you are jealous of their relationship, or that you are trying to get her to leave so he will come back to you, or whatever self benefiting reason. It will not be taken as your concern for her best interest.
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    Sep 22, 2013, 05:29 AM
    If everybody on the island knows, you can bet she knows too.

    He is no longer your problem, he's her problem.

    I would forget stirring up anything that would only lead to more drama.
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