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    alsosweet Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    #1

    Sep 19, 2013, 08:18 AM
    What is the problem here?
    Should I send him a text?

    Me and this guy were planning our 3th date. The conversation went like.. He said I want to hang out with you a whole day, we can go to the beach for a walk. Should I take the hotel there or should I drive you home?

    My answer was I would like to go home if you don't mind.

    Than I hear nothing now about 8 days, I see him on whatsap, so what is his problem?
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    Sep 19, 2013, 08:22 AM
    Haven't a clue what you just said. Care to rephrase it so that it's understandable?
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    Sep 19, 2013, 08:22 AM
    It is possible he had other ideas mentioning the hotel and he found that in someone else. If that is the case stand your ground and let him be with the other person.

    It is also possible that some emergency came up and took him out of town.

    It is possible he accidentally deleted your number and is waiting to hear from you.

    There is little downside to texting him and asking him how he is. If he does respond positively, then great. If not, you haven't invested much time anyway.
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    Sep 19, 2013, 08:34 AM
    Im dutch!
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    Sep 19, 2013, 08:41 AM
    I think your not wanting to stay in a hotel with him did it. Sounds like he had sex on his mind for a third date.
    I would not give him anymore thought.
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    Sep 19, 2013, 08:42 AM
    Thanks Oliver,

    We haven't kissed yet, but I know he really liked me he pays and drived 30 min to my city, and texted me every morning. He is also a verry handsome guy talks about having kids makes jokes having with me.. anyway now things are verry weird..
    Is he still interested and coukd he feel sorry now?
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    Sep 19, 2013, 08:45 AM
    Sounds to me like he was hoping for sex and that's why he mentioned the hotel. He's a bum, forget him.
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    Sep 19, 2013, 08:46 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    I think your not wanting to stay in a hotel with him did it. Sounds like he had sex on his mind for a third date.
    I would not give him anymore thought.
    Yes I don't want to have sex because I'm serious about him, and that was going to happan there like duh!

    If that is what he wanted why saying or go back home?

    He should reply? Not me in this case
    So I ignore him to for 8 days..
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    #9

    Sep 19, 2013, 09:02 AM
    He is not going to come out and say, "hey I spent time and money on you and now I want to have sex with you", he's just going to walk away. Don't give this guy another thought.
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    Sep 19, 2013, 09:26 AM
    Sounds like he isn't looking for a good girl that wants a lasting relationship
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    Sep 19, 2013, 09:42 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by alsosweet View Post
    Thanks Oliver,

    we havent kissed yet, but i know he really liked me he pays and drived 30 min to my city, and texted me every morning. He is also a verry handsome guy talks about having kids makes jokes having with me.. anyway now things are verry weird..
    Is he still interested and coukd he feel sorry now?
    I think you should send a very simple text like "Hey I was just thinking about you" and let him respond to it.

    Two years ago I sent my phone through the washing machine and lost everyone's number. So it does happen.
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    #12

    Sep 19, 2013, 10:21 AM
    You see him on what's up, I assume he could reach out to you there if he wanted to.
    His no response, is a clear one in my opinion.
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    Sep 19, 2013, 10:30 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    You see him on whats up, I assume he could reach out to you there if he wanted to.
    His no response, is a clear one in my opinion.
    Good point. I overlooked that one. But then again I don't do what's up.
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    Sep 19, 2013, 12:44 PM
    Scratch him off the date list. He is ignoring you because he didn't get what he wanted, a walk on the beach and a night of hot sex. If he contacts you again, DECLINE further contact. His intentions won't change and it's a total waste of time even texting him. That's a sign you are ready for sex.
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    Sep 19, 2013, 12:55 PM
    Yes it all sounds logic, he ignores me and now I feel bad! I guess I begin to so the real him,

    But still feel bad about it how it went, I think he spends his.. To another girl now someone he said is only after his money..

    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Scratch him off the date list. He is ignoring you because he didn't get what he wanted, a walk on the beach and a night of hot sex. If he contacts you again, DECLINE further contact. His intentions won't change and its a total waste of time even texting him. That's a sign you are ready for sex.
    Amen! That why I should keep doing what I do now and move on

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