[johnandkaye23]

I met this girl at the park. First time I lay my eyes on her my heart started pounding faster than it normally does. I knew from that point I would fall for her. The way she smiles , the way she looks at you , the way she talks, she's kind of girl that guys would go after and have a serious relationship. I get to talk to her and know her a little. She basically plays the sport that I love playing (Handball). Every time I see her and talk to her the more I get obsess about her. So I tried to stay cool and not be too obvious, but I couldn't help myself from thinking about her every single minute in every single day. It gets to the point where I am too nervous to talk or even look at her in the eyes when I am around her. I felt very insecure and felt like I am not good for her, that she can do better. That’s why I couldn't tell her how I really feel.

I got her phone number, started messaging her, I felt great. We got a little closer, one time she came to the park sad and I knew something was wrong. Later that day she said bye and just went home so I messaged her saying "hi, I left this pink mini Eiffel tower key chain outside your door. I hope it cheers you up. Whenever you need me with anything you just let me know I am always here for you. Do not come to the park sad anymore, it makes me sad too". She thinks it was very sweet and it did cheer her up. I’ll be honest but I am not like those other guys who pretend they're good with girls but they really not. It’s been a while since I dated someone and I know I am rusty, so I am not really expert on how to interact and deal with this girl, starting with the fact that I get very nervous when I am around her.

My friends tell me to just ask her out then when you feel the moment tell her what you really feel about her. I just nod and agree, but what I really feel about it is that I couldn't take a risk throwing my chance for this girl. I felt like I need to get know her more and she needs to know me more too. We need to spend more time to each other and be confident to one another. But this is my problem. I know I am not the only one who tries to ask her out. I’ll be dumb to think that she’s only talking to me. I am not going to lie that I am a little jealous because I am. There’s a lot of good looking guy who wants her and her attention and it really brings me down knowing that I have a mindset like this. I don't know how to deal with it. I am very confused but I want her really bad. I would do anything for this girl, treat her like a princess and would never hurt her.

I would really appreciate everybody's opinion or advice about my story. Up till this day I still think about her a lot and its bothering me knowing I am not doing anything about it. So please, put some sense to me. Thank you

[Oliver2011]

Dude - this is a little spooky to read.

Realize that obsession and jealousy are not attractive at all to anyone. That is a good way to lose anyone quickly.

Realize that if you rush a relationship the relationship is dommed to fail.

She is also free to date anyone because she is not in a committed relationship with you.

[talaniman]

Instead of wringing your hands and hurting your head, and being paralyzed with fear over the competition, ask her out with the intention of showing her a good time. Take a risk or regret you did NOTHING.