[corrie]

Hi everyone,

I would like to make a query and see what one might think. For the past 4.5 months I have been in contact with this guy over the internet. We exchanged e-mails and phone numbers and have corresponded daily. He actually lives in the nearby county where I live. He told me that he was interested in meeting me however I declined basically because I wanted to continue the correspondence and find out a little more about him but also for safety reasons. He was cool about that and hence we continued the contact for another month or so. Later on he told me that he would like a relationship with someone since his last one ended about 2 years ago, he had moved on etc etc. I told him that I was not ready for a relationship (came out of relationship 6 months ago which ended on a hurtful note so not ready) or interested in meeting up with anyone at this particular time however if he wanted to keep in contact as a friend then that would be fine. He agreed with this and said yeah that's OK. We have actaually never spoken on the phone and keep in touch ofetn via e-mail and text messages. I have noticed though that or contacts is more or less repetitive at this stage such as what are doing the wkd? how is your study going? how was you day? Etc etc. This is getting so repetitive now that I think we may have come to the end of the contact. Maybe the interest has gone from him and if so that's OK, but I have to say I have really enjoyed just hearing from him and just sharing everyday stuff. Should I suggest to him about meeting up/
Thanks everyone.

[ScottGem]

Daily contact can be hard to maintain a running conversation. It basically devolves into a how was your day thing. Since he hasn't pushed on meeting, give it a shot (in a public place) and see what happens.

[corrie]

Ok thanks for that however does it comes across as been desperate to meet with someone because I am at all that way inclined?

[ScottGem]

No, not after 4 months

[Fr_Chuck]

I would not have anything new to say after daily contact for 4 months to anyone myself short of what happened for the day

[corrie]

Hi everyone,

I would like to follow up on my last e-mail and get advice please. I contacted the guy tonight and wished him well and said that it hard to continue with the e-mails when we have not met face to face because I hadn't heard from him over the past week so immediately I thought he had lost interest. His message replied "Well i was away for the past week so that is why you haven't heard from me. But it should not be a chore for us to keep in touch and if you have lost interets then fair enough. if you want to meet up i would be up for that for sure, but either way i will leave it up to you. Best of luck, T. I replied "no T it is not a chore at all however it is very hard to know what to say after 4 months of e-mailing so yes I would like to meet up soon, but how about the end of the month? Take care until then". I have heard no reply from him. Now everyone I feel such an idiot because God knows what he's thinking! Does he think I am desperate, I have junped to the wrong conclusion. What do you all think? Thanks.

[LBP]

You're so silly. Just do what your guts tell you - it's been four months, the only mixed message he could be getting would be from your reluctance. Say "Let's get together on THIS day in THIS place and see how much fun we can have." It's that simple. How much happier will you be to get the stress of this ambiguity off your chest? I don't think that's a hard question to answer. Go from there.

[corrie]

Hi thanks, yes I am been silly but now your response has been reasurring and I will just go with the flow. What a great site this is.

[corrie]

Well everyone I made that call to my internet contact and he returned the call tonight. We spoke for about 25 minutes and soemtimes there was silence and much of the time laughter. He sounded all right and asked me out. He says he will ring nect week and arrange to meet up for a drink or so. Just thought I'd let ye know and thanks everyone.