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thisguy26 · Sep 8, 2013, 02:53 PM

Sorry I hope this isn't to long. My girlfriend and I are on a break, because she wanted it. We have made 2 years and had our ups and downs but over strong. She is in school most of the time and I am busy with working or getting my career started. Since we argue more recently and have not been in contact as much she wanted a break. I gave her space but since that time she had wanted me to fix her phone and had accused me of seeing another girl. I said no to both and kept the text convos casual. She also put up weird Facebook posts about "If i could go back to when we met.." or " while your not paying attention to her another guy is..". Since I am not really on FB as much it took me awhile to realize the connection.

After a few weeks she I texted her to see how she was. I had designed a picture and showed her. She seemed to like it. She had also said she felt I didn't have time for her and that's why she wanted the break. She eventually asked me to come and after a couple of days of asking I did. When I went we spoke and started to become intimate. I stopped myself and she was upset I did not continue. We then spoke and she said she missed me and massaged my back etc. THe FB posts we also bought up and she said she was glad I saw them. After I kissed her and left. We had texted after I got home. The next 2 days I heard no contact from her until I texted a flirty message the 3rd day. She then responded a little rude and for the following days she would be evading questions and when I asked to come over this day or another she kept saying she was busy and doing "things".

After awhile I became confused. I don't know what happened? We went back and forth and finally I got tired of trying and being told "im busy", "no", "I will see". And when I stated "now it looks like you dont have the time", she replied simply "Well hey." After that I just pretty much stopped texting. I have not heard from her in a week now and I don't know how to feel. I have picked up new hobbies and moved on with life but I am not sure what happened? I was not to busy for her nor would I purposely do that. I am older than her by a few years but I am not sure what to do?

Wondergirl · Sep 8, 2013, 03:14 PM

A "break" usually means a BREAK. Sounds like she is trying to keep you around just in case, or just doesn't have the heart to let you go completely because of memories or not wanting to appear "mean."

Let her go. No Contact. Unfriend her on FB. Move along without her.

thisguy26 · Sep 8, 2013, 05:55 PM

I thank you for your answer and totally agreed with the move on and unfriend her. Even more so since you are a woman I value your opinion in that matter. I actually did that before asking the question oddly enough. This isn't my first break up or anything like that, but I am trying to figure this one out. It just is out of the blue. I mean it confusing. She says she loves me, and the last thing I told her was "I hope they do what I did for you", and she responded "What are you talking about?" and that's it. She never acted this way before. Will she contact again? What do I do if she does?

Wondergirl · Sep 8, 2013, 06:01 PM

Originally Posted by thisguy26

Will she contact again? what do I do if she does?

I hope she won't. If she does, you aren't there.

thisguy26 · Sep 8, 2013, 06:12 PM

Wow. That is actually REAL no bull answer. I can tell you are experienced with this kind of stuff being that direct. Thanks for your feedback. I will take this advice.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 8, 2013, 06:50 PM

Almost never is a "break" really a break to try and get back together, it is a break to see how things are without the other person. Almost always, it is a full time break,

People do not like to fight and make a big scene to break up. And most never want to try to explain. They will either try to find a way to blame the other if a fight happens. Most prefer to just sort of wander apart.

talaniman · Sep 8, 2013, 07:39 PM

It wasn't out of the blue my friend as the arguing was a sign something was wrong and so were her Facebook posting. Then a break? Its probably been over a while in her mind, and sorry you couldn't resolve your differences.

There is nothing to figure out, it didn't workout. That happens and has happened before, so dwell no more on it.

thisguy26 · Sep 8, 2013, 09:30 PM

I see. Hmm Thanks. The postings were durning the break but I see your point. I should also mention I was her first with pretty much everything. Maybe that also was a reason? Idk. But I will try not to dwell on it any longer. Thanks everyone.