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swetha17 · Aug 22, 2013, 02:15 AM

One of my friends had sex with her boy friend for 30 times but now she is getting married with another person. Does her husband knows that she already had sex with him? And one more thing is since one year she has not involved in sex. Could her husband know that she had already had sex? Please tell me.

joypulv · Aug 22, 2013, 02:37 AM

No one can tell if a woman has a sexual history just by examining her or by having sex with her (unless she is carrying a sexually transmitted disease).

Why is this your concern?

N0help4u · Aug 22, 2013, 03:16 AM

Your friend had sex with her boyfriends male friends 30 times but now she is married to someone else but he does or does not know about it? But the past year she has not had sex with this other person? You keep saying his husband but then you say she? You say husband then you say getting married.
I am not sure how many or who all is involved in your question but I am thinking this may be a culture thing? That you are asking about her sex history?
Like Joy said her husband may not be able to tell she was with another guy unless she tells him. Are you someone that she confides in that she would tell you she had sex with this guy 30 times?

CravenMorhead · Aug 22, 2013, 06:38 AM

How is any of this your business?

There is no way to tell. A women doesn't get looser the more they have sex. The sensation doesn't change. Honestly every woman feels a little differently. They all feel different for the fellow.

If they're not having issue for it, why do you question this?

Cat1864 · Aug 22, 2013, 07:11 AM

Is your 'friend' concerned that her husband will be able to tell that she isn't a virgin when they have sex for the first time?

I am going to guess that her husband to be thinks he is marrying a virgin. I will also guess that her being a virgin is part of an arranged marriage or, if it is a love match, she has not told him about her past (possibly lied.)

Frankly, I prefer being honest with future spouses, but I do understand there are some cultures where she could be in serious trouble if the truth were known. If at all possible, she needs to be honest with him. There is always the chance he could find out the truth later and it could be worse for her then. But she has to make the decision.

As long as he doesn't hold to the 'traditional' method of proving virginity (intact hymen) then she should be okay. If he does, she could say that she was worried about pain. Doing some research she found out some interesting facts about the hymen. Facts like: Some women are born without one; they can be torn through ordinary play, activities, and accidents (climbing trees, riding horses/bikes, acrobatics, etc.); and some women who have an intact hymen do not feel pain or bleed. Researching sex and how to be a good/responsive partner could also help her cover for knowing about intercourse.

swetha17 · Sep 10, 2013, 02:41 AM

Originally Posted by Cat1864

Is your 'friend' concerned that her husband will be able to tell that she isn't a virgin when they have sex for the first time?

I am going to guess that her husband to be thinks he is marrying a virgin. I will also guess that her being a virgin is part of an arranged marriage or, if it is a love match, she has not told him about her past (possibly lied.)

Frankly, I prefer being honest with future spouses, but I do understand there are some cultures where she could be in serious trouble if the truth were known. If at all possible, she needs to be honest with him. There is always the chance he could find out the truth later and it could be worse for her then. But she has to make the decision.

As long as he doesn't hold to the 'traditional' method of proving virginity (intact hymen) then she should be okay. If he does, she could say that she was worried about pain. Doing some research she found out some interesting facts about the hymen. Facts like: Some women are born without one; they can be torn through ordinary play, activities, and accidents (climbing trees, riding horses/bikes, acrobatics, etc.); and some women who have an intact hymen do not feel pain or bleed. Researching sex and how to be a good/responsive partner could also help her cover for knowing about intercourse.

Just I want to know whether her husband can identify whether she is virgin or not my friend is worrying allot... and another important thing is that she is getting married with her cousin itself not a unknown person... he loves her allot if he knows that she is not virgin he cannot digect the truth... whats the solution for this sir please suggest something...

Fr_Chuck · Sep 10, 2013, 02:46 AM

There is no way he can tell. End of story, there is no virgin detector.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 10, 2013, 02:56 AM

You ask the same question.

Can husband know, NO, NO NO, he can not tell,

If he already knows her, what difference does it make,

But there is no way for a man to know, not a cousin, not anyone,

smoothy · Sep 10, 2013, 11:22 AM

If she performs a deep throat maneuver on their first time together... its a dead giveaway.

Also if she gives him HPV, Herpes or any number of STD's... its a dead giveaway... but as others have suggested... there is no "V" on her that goes away after her first time.

Now of course... telling lies to a future spouse... is just setting them up for problems in the future.