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    Aug 21, 2013, 05:05 PM
    Who is the father
    If my last day of lmp on the 7-8 and then I had sex with a guy on 7-15 and then I slept with my husband on 7-17-7-18-7-19-7-20 -7-21 who is most likely to be the father of the baby please help me
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    Aug 21, 2013, 05:08 PM
    Neither has a higher chance than the other. Your dates of encounters are so close together that either man can be the father.

    Time to fess up to your husband that he will need to take a DNA test once the baby is born to determine paternity.

    However, you are lucky, in that depending on where you live, he will be the legal father whether you divorce or not.
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    Aug 21, 2013, 05:08 PM
    Please help me I need to know when I got pregnant
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    Aug 21, 2013, 05:08 PM
    You will know when you have the DNA test done.
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    Aug 21, 2013, 05:44 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cedreh View Post
    please help me I need to know when I got pregnant
    Unfortunately for you, there is no way to know for sure who the father is until a DNA test can be done after birth.

    I can tell you that legally, you husband will be the presumed legal father.
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    Aug 21, 2013, 05:51 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cedreh View Post
    please help me I need to know when I got pregnant
    The dates you had sex with your lover and your husband are literally 2 days apart. There's absolutely no way to even guess who the father is. A DNA test is the only way you'll find out.

    If you didn't want two potential fathers, why are you cheating on your husband? This could have been prevented. Now you'll have to wait, and confess.
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    Aug 21, 2013, 05:54 PM
    Sperm lives in a woman's vaginal canal for 3-5 days before reaching the egg and fertilizing it. Since you had an affair on 7/15, his sperm could have reached the egg somewhere between 7/18 to 7/20.

    You had sex with your husband starting on 7/17. So his sperm could have reached the egg somewhere between 7/20 and 7/22. And that is an inexact science.

    You now need to come clean to your husband and let him know that he may not be the biological father to this child.

    I am very sorry you put yourself in this situation.
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    Aug 21, 2013, 08:16 PM
    Please do not continue to post the same question. You will not get a different answer. All duplicate posts are removed.

    Unfortunately you now have to tell your husband that you have cheated on him and that this child that he thinks is his may not be his.
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    Aug 21, 2013, 08:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Please do not continue to post the same question. You will not get a different answer. All duplicate posts are removed.

    Unfortunately you now have to tell your husband that you have cheated on him and that this child that he thinks is his may not be his.
    I don't know why people post the same question over and over. Posting the same question won't change the facts.

    On this site we give valid advice. If you want someone to tell you what you want to hear, call your friends and family. You came here, so I'm assuming you want the truth. You got the truth. Posting over and over again won't change the truth.

    The truth is, and this isn't opinion, it's fact, only a DNA test can determine who the father of this child is. That means that you have to tell both potential fathers that you're not sure who fathered this child, and that a DNA test will have to be done once the baby is born.

    If you're looking for an opinion on your relationship, then by all means, start a new thread about that. But anything pertaining to this pregnancy, and the question of paternity, has already been answered. There are no other possible answers. Facts are facts, they can't be changed to suit the person asking.
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    Aug 22, 2013, 03:05 AM
    First, let me ask have you confirmed that you are pregnant?

    Second, I'm going to step away from the medical aspects here. The ethical and proper thing to do is to confess to your husband. But I don't know the circumstances. I don't know how your husband will react and I don't how much you want/need to preserve your marriage.

    You don't need or have to tell your husband about the other guy or the other guy that he might be the father. It is the right and ethical thing to do, but if you really need to preserve your marriage it is not an absolute necessity. You will have to live with this on your conscience and it is possible it will come out some day. (for example your child might need treatment that will determine your husband is not the bio father).

    You have to live with this.

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