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    Synnen Posts: 7,927, Reputation: 2443
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    Apr 3, 2007, 02:44 PM
    Yup. Age IS a number.

    Unfortunately, what has been expected of different ages during different eras has changed drastically.

    If you want to use the past as an example--500 years ago, women were married as early as 7 or 8, and lost their virginity immediately following their first menstrual cycle. NOBODY got divorced back then. Does that mean all of our 9 year old girls should be getting married?

    YES, getting married young can work--my parents were married 2 days after my dad turned 19, and 3 days after my mom turned 16. That was the soonest they could marry. My mom was 6 months pregnant with me at the time. My parents have dodged all of the odds about those situations--BUT THEY ARE IN A MINORITY!

    As far as an age gap... my husband is 5 years older than I am, and the next closest person to me in my life is 8 years younger than I am. The difference is that I met my husband when I was 21, and had learned a little bit about who I am. A 15 year old doesn't have a CLUE who they are yet, because they haven't been given the chance to learn that yet, not with ALL of the societal ramifications.

    As far as fighting for what you love--you have to do that at any age. There is always SOMEONE in your life who doesn't approve of who you love/date/marry, based on all manner of ridiculous things--including age.

    And as far as having a career before a family---you're damned straight you ought to. If you can't support yourself, you have no business getting involved with someone else. Then the relationship is at least partially dependent on money from the beginning, and who would want someone to stay with them because they HAD to?

    To the OP--if you think you can do it legally, and you're both absolutely sure that's what you want, then go for it. But you're going to have a long hard road in front of you. Good luck with it!
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    Apr 3, 2007, 02:52 PM
    I'm not going to justify my choices and opnions on life to you! But for me I'm happy! For the first time in my life I can truly say that I'm happy! I want to give the sniders hope! I want them to hold on to my story to know that it can work and it can be awsome! I wish you all the luck in the world and just rember when people are riping on you that you have something they probably don't because if they did they wouldent be chastiseing you! You have true love and nothing in the world in better than that!
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    Apr 3, 2007, 05:04 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by MrsJoseph06
    I'm not going to justify my choices and opnions on life to you! But for me I'm happy! For the first time in my life I can truley say that I'm happy! I want to give the sniders hope! I want them to hold on to my story to know that it can work and it can be awsome! I wish you all the luck in the world and just rember when people are riping on you that you have something they probably don't because if they did they wouldent be chastiseing you! You have true love and nothing in the world in better than that!
    You don't need to justify your choiuces to me, nor do I ask you to. I am very glad you have bucked the odds and are happy.

    But I won't stand by while you use your exception to the rule to try and give someone else inflated hopes.
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    Apr 3, 2007, 05:09 PM
    Sniders I hope you make it! I hope you can make your relationship work and that the two of you are happy! And I hope that I can give you inflated hopes!!
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    Apr 13, 2007, 10:08 AM
    Soo.. you like young girls, maybe you should ask for professional help. When she becomes of legal age are you going to lose interest with her and find another young girl?
    Take it from a girl who grew up to fast, If you really love this girl you would give her space and let her grow up even how much you think she's mature I assure you it's all in her head. I know I've been on my own since 14 and I would do anything to have my teenager years back.
    So leave the girl until she's an adult and hang out with people your own age. If you are physically attracted to people younger than you than you need to seek professional help because it can become a serious problem down the road.
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    Apr 13, 2007, 10:52 AM
    In reading this I had to keep in mind we have only half the story here. I for one would love to hear from the young lady and her parents. Another thing jumps out that they live in different states, so how well can they know each other? We have our opinions and since the OP's original question has been answered I will shelve my questions and curiosity, and morality and seek others who need advice. Personally though I think he is fantasizing.
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