[Juan101]

I have had feelings for this one girl for almost 9 years now, but every time things look to go in the direction of a relationship I avoid it and put distance between me and her and stop speaking to her.

After she moved away I met this other girl and have been dating for more than 2 years now, but now a few days ago the girl who I had a crush on, came to my house, everything went normal, but then we started making out.

I have no idea what to do, I really love my girlfriend, but now this other girl came, and now I’m so confused. None of my friend’s family or anyone knows about this, they won’t understand. Please help. What I should do?

[Homegirl 50]

You have cheated. Be honest with your girl friend. It is not fair for her to be in the dark. She deserves to have a choice to stay with you or leave.

[Oliver2011]

I totally agree. It sounds like this is bothering you so she will probably be able to tell something is not right. Plus if she does leave you it will teach you a lesson.

[Jake2008]

What you haven't learned, is that you can control yourself.

What you could have done, is not met up with this old crush, at all. There would have been feelings stirring the moment the plan for her to visit you were made. You could have stopped even before it started.

At least you aren't blaming it on your girlfriend, or booze, or the dog ate your homework...

You need to be honest with your girlfriend. In so doing, you not only ease your conscience, but you also prove to yourself that you are man enough to step up and accept whatever consequences will follow.

That will at least give you a fighting chance to save your relationship. Not doing so, and your girlfriend finding out, will have a much worse outcome.

And, thinking you got away with something by not confessing, only makes it easier to see this old crush (or someone else) again.

[charlied22]

Cheating is never the answer my friend, be honest with both parties and learn from your mistakes. It's hard to be honest sometimes but as they say the truth shall set you free, besides they may hate you a little less knowing you were honest with them?

[talaniman]

Make a choice. Keep being a lying cheater, or be honest as you would want others to be honest with you.

[cheesetaker]

The best thing to do is be honest... when you tell her it might not always work out. Even though she might be angry she`ll be at least happy you were honest.

Explain yourself, if it was a mistake... you also need to make a decision who you choose and one Question

Why did you cheat on her if you love her?
Can she trust you?

[talaniman]

It was a poor decision in the first place.