[Emjayyy]

We have been dating for a year and a half, and I moved all the way from Alabama to Colorado to be with him. Which is exactly what he wanted. I didn't invite myself, or beg to go. He sincerely wanted me to move in with him. (mistake? I don't know) Because now, I find him very boring. He hardly talks about anything, shows no mutual interest when he could at least try, and the he has not touched me or made any sexual remarks whatsoever. We share a lame peck on the lips for good nights or goodbyes and that's all. Now, every single night, I dream of other men. And I'm getting pretty desperate. I shouldn't have to bend over backwards to make him want me, and I'm not boring in bed! The few men I have been with, I've had to shake them off me! So, I'm trying to not let this hurt my feelings, though it truly is. He gets very defensive if I bring up the topic and blame it on birth control. And I tell him to wear a condom in the meantime, which he says he will. But doesn't even bother. So now what? I'm not a cheater. And I feel bad for thinking about other men so often, because lately sex has consumed my mind. I love my man, dearly. Behind the rough is a beautiful wonderful man. But lately, I don't know if I'm loved... Help me.

[odinn7]

Sounds like there are other problems rather than just sex... it doesn't sound like you two are much more than room mates. You may want to reconsider this whole situation that you're in.

[smoothy]

This is one of the reasons I think online relationships are a vbery bad thing... you never get to know each other face to face which really is not the same as talking on line or on the phone.

I'm taking a guess here that he's found out the reality rarely matches the fantasy you creat in your mind...

That's not ssaying you did anything wrong to cause this... you probibly did nothing wrong at all... and that the fantasy he had in his mind turned out to be way different when it became reality.

And maybe he just can't live up to what he thought he could...