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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:31 PM
    Im 17 and I need to move in with my Mother
    Hi I'm a 17 year old girl who lives with my father and step mother. The house which I live in is past dirty its unhealthy and I'm becoming really sick but every time I call DCF he cleans it up to pass the Ladies judgment, then within days it filthy again. I go to school then come home get yelled and screamed at and forced to clean up till 1 AM then wake up at 4:30 am to get ready for school. I'm called a lying , I've been slapped (no marks are left) My father doesn't buy me clothes My boyfriend buys me clothes and food. My stepmother is always in my face calling me a , saying that I'm worthless and they have been doing this since I was 4 years old. I have done nothing but be nice and do what they say but lately its too much. I lost control of my mind I cut myself, I beat my head against the wall, I even put a loaded gun into my mouth, I'm at my mothers for the summer and everyday my father comes over breaks custody and drags me back to his house to clean his mess, he calls me up screaming and saying that I'm stealing from him when I'm not even home to steal from him. I can't go back there because I won't see my 18th birthday party I'll be dead. I'm this depressed to seek help from strangers because my mom has gone to court and I am scared and tired. I sleep all day, even my boyfriend has been trying to find a way for me to get out. He and my mother are the only people who protect me but I'm slowly slipping away from sanity and mental safety. Please.. please help me.
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:35 PM
    Have you ever called the police so there's a paper trail on this?

    Hurting yourself won't solve anything. When will you be 18?
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:37 PM
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    Have you ever called the police so there's a paper trail on this?

    Hurting yourself won't solve anything. When will you be 18?
    No I haven't called the police because I'm scared that he'll attack me or punish me
    And I turn 18 May 5th
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:37 PM
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    No I havent called the police because I'm scared that he'll attack me or punish me
    and I turn 18 May 5th
    Are you ever at home alone? And he's at work?
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:40 PM
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    Are you ever at home alone? and he's at work?
    He has heart problems and a foot amputee so he is ALWAYS home he's not as bad as my step mother but I shouldn't be trying to kill myself over them by the way I do all his medical work I pick up his medican I stay in the hospital with him I give him his shots and I pretty much could pass as a nurse at 17 and I still get slapped if I bring something wrong
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:41 PM
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    He has heart problems and a foot amputee so he is ALWAYS home hes not as bad as my step mother but I shouldn't be trying to kill myself over them btw i do all his medical work I pick up his medican i stay in the hospital with him i give him his shots and I pretty much could pass as a nurse at 17 and i still get slapped if i bring something wrong
    Have you reported this abuse to one of the teachers or the principal at school?
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:42 PM
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    Have you reported this abuse to one of the teachers or the principal at school?
    Yes and they have me talk to DCF and I tell them what's going on and in the end they drop the case
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:42 PM
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    Yes and they have me talk to DCF and I tell them whats going on and in the end they drop the case
    Why does your father have custody of you?
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:43 PM
    If you have a cell phone tale pics of the worst messes of the house that they can't deny making. Don't let them know. Your mom Should take this to CPS and get a GAL advocate for you.
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:43 PM
    Because when I was 4 years old I said I wanted to live with him
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:44 PM
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    Because when I was 4 years old I said I wanted to live with him
    Your mother needs to go to court to ask for custody.
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:45 PM
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    If you have a cell phone tale pics of the worst messes of the house that they can't deny making. Dont let them know. Your mom Should take this to CPS and get a GAL advocate for you.
    We have pictures we have pictures of cat waste and roaches everywhere along with mold we have pictures
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:46 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Your mother needs to go to court to ask for custody.
    She has but how long will it take?
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:46 PM
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    We have pictures we have pictures of cat waste and roaches everywhere along with mold we have pictures
    And?
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:47 PM
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    She has but how long will it take?
    When did she ask the court?
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:47 PM
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    And?
    We have taken it to court and they warn my dad saying someone is going to come look at the house and he cleans it up
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:48 PM
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    When did she ask the court?
    Last year
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:49 PM
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    last year
    And her lawyer tells her what?
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:53 PM
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    And her lawyer tells her what?
    I don't know I get yelled at for calling her and my phone taken away if I do so
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    Jul 31, 2013, 07:56 PM
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    I dont know i get yelled at for calling her and my phone taken away if i do so
    She must have some custody of you -- weekends? Did you appear in court when she applied for custody? Like No asked did assigning a guardian ad litem get discussed? Which state is this?

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