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    JodieIcebaby12 Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 30, 2013, 10:03 AM
    What should I do?
    I have been dating one guy that is really nice and I truly believe he loves me. Problem is, I don't think I love him. Although I used too, things have changed since I me this other guy. Hes really sweet and funny and I feel like I can say anything to him which I have never felt before. I don't know how to break up with the other guy because I asked him out in the first place. Also even if I did cut him off I don't know what I mean to the other guy and I wouldn't know how to tell him what he means to me. I just feel like all I want to do is know its possible to be with him. But I don't know if it is. Please, I need some advice
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    Jul 30, 2013, 11:09 AM
    The fact that you initiated dating doesn't mean you're tied to this guy for life.

    Why can't you date both of them? Why is it "either" "or"?

    If you must pick one or the other, pick the one you "love."
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    Jul 30, 2013, 12:19 PM
    Be honest with the guy you are dating and avoid using him as a plan B safety net in case you can't be with the new guy. You can date them both if you are honest and know what the deal is, and won't be a lying, cheating, selfish person.

    How would you want to be treated if the guy you dated had his eyes, mind, body and hopes elsewhere?
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    Jul 30, 2013, 12:47 PM
    There's no way I'm dating to people at the same time and by date I mean be in a relationship
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    Jul 30, 2013, 01:37 PM
    "Theres no way im dating to people at the same time and by date i mean be in a relationship"

    How old are you? "To" instead of "two" makes me think you are in your teens - ?

    Why is there no way you would date two people at the same time? Every date you have is going to turn into a relationship - if it's your plan to go from "hello" to a "relationship" with no one else/nothing else in between I believe you are going to be disappointed in life.

    If you can't decide which one to be in a relationship with and they both want a relationship be honest with both and see how it plays out.
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    Jul 30, 2013, 02:55 PM
    As said before, If you are not feeling the guy you are with now, you need to be honest with him and let him know.

    Wouldn't you want to know if he didn't have strong feelings for you anymore?

    You can't keep one guy around dishonestly just to have a rebound. That would not be fair.

    My advice to you is to tell the guy that you are with now exactly what you told us in your post.
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