[dudeneedshelp]

Hi, I just wanted to put my story out and see what are the chances that my girlfriend is pregnant or not. She's been on the pill for several months and we use condoms too. However, recently there have been a couple times where we did not use condoms and I pulled out, although I know its possible some could have gotten in her. Anyway, a few days before her last period she noticed spotting. Then she got her period but she said it only lasted for a day or two so she wasn't sure if it was it or not. She's been under a lot of stress lately and sometimes she feel sick to her stmoach. Its been about a week after she got what she tought was her period. Obviously we are both alarmed about this, but she wants to wait to take a test. I just wanted to get opinions on whether other people thought she was or not. Thanks

[automansgirl]

If you are having sex there is a possibility of pregnancy. However, stress can affect/delay a woman's period. If you are both still uncertain I would wait a week or two and take a test. Other than that, all you can really do is wait it out until next month. If you are really concerned and you both need answers you could always get a blood test from the doctor. I don't know if she's pregnant or not, but remember that "pregnancy symptoms" are often times symptoms of something else, i.e.. Stress, illness, etc. If her period doesn't come next month, or is different than normal she may want to see her doctor. She should be getting her annual with a ob/gyn at least once a year.

[Lotz_of_Questions]

Ask her to take the test. Since she is under stress that might be way she has had pregancy symptoms. Once she takes the test she'll feel better and then her period will come. (that is if she isn't pregnant) Good Luck:)

[EnglishRose]

I agree with the others. If you think you may be pregnant it can make you sick with worry and little things that happen to you all the time suddenly seem like a symptom. I do it myself. This morning the bus made me feel sick ( I might be pregnant) and I was 'ooh is this morning sickness?' even though deep down I doubt it.
Taking a test is the only way to get an answer.

[dudeneedshelp]

Yea I think its in her head that's she's pregnant but she starts talking about it and it makes me worry. I've asked her repeately to take a test but she won't. She says she wants to wait and not deal with it right now. But she's going to find out anyway? Wouldn't it be better to know sooner than later? And if its negative then we can stop worrying. How can I convince her it's a good idea to take a test now?

[EnglishRose]

Is there a possibility that she wants to be pregnant? Maybe it is as she says, a way of putting off the inevitable. U can't make her pee on a stick so until she decides she wants to you will have to wait. There is no point worring about it until you know. However, she prob should find out asap before it is too late for her to have the option of an abortion or start eatting right etc if she plans to keep the baby.

[dudeneedshelp]

Here's an update... no she doesn't want to be pregnant and we're going to wait to take a test until a week after she is supposed to get her period if she is in fact late. She's supposed to get it in about a week and a half. In the mean time, she said that she's had bleeding but its not like period blood, it looks like it's the color of rust. Its been over 2 weeks since we had sex without a condom so I don't think it can be implantation right? Anyway, she has still been taking her birth control regularly so could that have something to to with this?

[buggage]

She needs to take a test if she is still taking her birth control regularly. She needs to know one way or another, as taking birth control while pregnant could pose a health risk to the baby.(if she is pregnant) As far as the bleeding goes, it could be a number of things. A visit to her doctor would be a good idea

[dudeneedshelp]

She said it might be something like a miscarriage, is that possible form birth control?

[Cgard]

I think it is important that you take a test ASAP and seek help from your family doctor or emergency. If in fact she was pregnant and is miscarrying then she would be in a great deal of pain so ask her about how she is feeling. The pains would feel worse then normal menstrual cramping, and she would be extremely tired. If she is pregnant then she needs to stop taking her birth control as this could cause harm to the baby. She may be scared to find out the truth and this is why she is waiting to test, its important to keep the lines of communication open and encourage and support her throughout the process. Even when you are trying to conceive it can be overwhelming and scary so if you were not trying then she may be going through a great deal of emotions right now. So talk to her and let her now your feelings and worries that way you can both work through this together.

[dudeneedshelp]

I've expressed my concerns to her, and there's no way she's going to take a test until she knows she is late. Neither of us want a child right now, but if she was pregnant we would defiantly keep it. My concern is that she's still taking her birth control and if she is pregnant than this could hurt the baby. Another thing that I am worried about is the bleeding she's experiencing. She goes to see her doctor next month. Could the bleeding be a result of being pregnant? If that's not the case, what could be some other reasons for it?

[buggage]

Some women experience early pregnancy bleeding, and it is perfectly normal for them. However, it could also be something serious. I am afraid this is something that needs to be brought up with the doctor. If she is refusing to take a test, yet still taking her birth control, she is off to a very irresponsible start. She needs to face the possibilities, and just find out.