Check out some similar questions!

elliemxo · Jul 27, 2013, 11:57 PM

We've been friends for around about a year and a half. We used to go to the same school (so that makes it 3 years and a half if those count at all, but we both moved to new schools) but we never really were friends at all, just had mutual friends, and would casually greet each other. He's a year older than I am. Basically we became friends really quickly. We hit it the first time we spoke, and we've clicked really well. Skip forward to a couple of months later, he started ignoring me (and I was literally head over heels for him) every time I say hi and whatnot. I took a hint, and told got over it, and stopped talking to him. Skip forward to a couple of months later, summer had ended, school's started , he initiated a conversation, and told me he dreamt about me (apparently we both had a crush on each other and he was sort of my superhero in the dream lol), so we started talking again, and I made sure I'd never initiate a conversation, and if he wants me in his life, I wouldn't have to fight for a spot anymore, and that it's up to him. SO, skip forward a couple of months later he stopped talking to me, again. So, I ignore it. And then he starts diminishing me from all social networking websites, which was quite odd. Then I get a long-*** text from him telling me how much I suck, because I told him "whatever" when he wanted to debate over something. He asks me why I am mad at him, I tell him because he keeps on ignoring me, he tells me it's because of exams, and that I am very aware of the fact that he just never initiates conversations, and that's the kind of person he is. The conversation goes on with me trying to end it, because I don't want him to say something that would hurt me, and I don't want to say something that would hurt him, and him keeping it going and claiming that he's trying to fix things between the two of us. I really wanted to fix things, but it wasn't happening. He proclaimed I closed-mindedly didn't give a , and to which I responded with "If the shoe fits, feel free to wear it", and he asked me to go myself. Now I know he was very rude, and I wasn't exactly the nicest, but I really miss him, and I want to fix things between us. But I've always put him above my pretty much nonexistent pride, because I really really care(d) about him. I miss him a lot, and I don't know what to do.

joypulv · Jul 28, 2013, 12:08 AM

Neither of you is communicating feelings at all, and being in different schools isn't making it any easier. He seems full of an unusual amount of anger. I'd let him go and find someone more mature. You sound young too however. Putting him above your non-existent pride because you care about him? Do you mean that you let him get away with calling you horrible names because you are insecure and wish he cared about you more? You have to force yourself to stop that kind of behavior and force yourself to show some pride. If you don't, you will be walked all over.
If you want to text him, try something 'real' for a change! 'Let's talk like two people who care, and get past some of the hurts, and say what we really feel.'

elliemxo · Jul 28, 2013, 12:15 AM

Originally Posted by joypulv

Neither of you is communicating feelings at all, and being in different schools isn't making it any easier. He seems full of an unusual amount of anger. I'd let him go and find someone more mature. You sound young too however. Putting him above your non-existent pride because you care about him? Do you mean that you let him get away with calling you horrible names because you are insecure and wish he cared about you more? You have to force yourself to stop that kind of behavior and force yourself to show some pride. If you don't, you will be walked all over.
If you want to text him, try something 'real' for a change! 'Let's talk like two people who care, and get past some of the hurts, and say what we really feel.'

Thank you so much.

tickle · Jul 28, 2013, 02:26 AM

Yes. Go for it !

Homegirl 50 · Jul 28, 2013, 03:36 AM

Good grief, how old are you two? So much drama. Call him. Tell him you're sorry and would Iike to start over. If it doesn't work this time walk away. Relationships should not be that complicated

N0help4u · Jul 28, 2013, 06:08 AM

I'd tell him something like you know he doesn't like to initiate conversations but neither do you, so if he wants to be friends he is going to have to put more effort into it. And that it bothers you to have friends that drift in and out like they are mad because it leaves you wondering what you did wrong.