[rahul25071990]

I am a 22 year old guy who completed his graduation and took a job, as I belong to a middle class family and was good in studies. After 1 year of working I left the job and started preparing for civil services, and joined a coaching institute in the month of August 2012. There I came across this girl who used to sit in front of me in the class.

Despite trying hard I kept looking at her and wasn't able to focus. I saw her everyday in the parking lot and being an idiot I wasn't able to talk to her. I am not a coward but I don't know why I just couldn't tell her or talk to her about how I felt about her (maybe because I have never talked to a girl in my whole life ). But now after the month of December the classes got over and that was the last I saw her.

Some how I came to know that she is a very nice decent girl and is very conservative in her thoughts.

From the last 6 months I am not able to forget her. Her face always comes in front of my eyes no matter what the time is, day or night, I am kind of obsessed with her and I am not able to concentrate on my career and studies.

A couple of weeks ago I was coming from somewhere and I saw her. She was there at was her home. She stays near my locality. I was stunned and shocked and hell happened again as I became numb there. I didn't know what to do. I want to tell her a lot of things about I how I feel for her, but I know that I need to focus on my career as well. I am really in a mess.

Help me out. What should I do to get rid of her thoughts which I am not able to do. Should I confess in front of her? How to do that or what should I do??

[joypulv]

Confess in front of her? No of course not. You say hi, I am not sure if you remember me from class but I remember you. You smile and sound glad to be talking with her. You ask how she's been doing since school, and other not very personal little things, polite but interested things. If she is willing to talk, you talk, but plan to leave pretty soon, saying 'I have to go but would really like to see you again. Is there a day this week when we could go for a short walk to the coffee shop?'

Remember, she's just a person like you, not a goddess. It worries me that you talk in terms of 'confessing.'
She may have a boyfriend, and you will probably get a clue about how available she is in the first 2 minutes, or when you ask to see her again. Don't ask if she has one. Let her tell you. She may say something like 'Well I'd like to go somewhere, but I am seeing a guy.. '
If it helps, plan about 5 questions, and 5 things you will say about yourself. School, jobs, family, computers, movies, music, keep it light at first.
If you can't handle rejection, no matter how nicely she does it, then you will just have to stay lonely and obsessed. Everyone gets rejected sometime. Everyone!

[talaniman]

Ask her for coffee my gosh instead of tying your guts in knots. Then go from there by her reaction. You probably wouldn't be obsessed over one female if you had an enjoyable social life that you enjoyed to add balance to your career ambitions. Consider it social education where you can learn to interact with people of the opposite sex.

All work and no play can't be fun. You can still focus on your career ambitions too you know.

[N0help4u]

You need to start somewhere. Next time you see her say hi, nice running into you, remember me from class,. something! Life and love will pass you by if you let it. Even if she isn't interested at least TRY. Don't give in with how do I forget...