You need to focus on yourself and get help from a counselor to do that. We tend to think we can control things, but we cannot and there has to be a healthy acceptance of that fact because life will always throw us curves. You also need to learn to define yourself, not based on the love or need of another person, but based on what YOUR passions in life are... you need to know that YOU are a terrific person and YOU can be and do anything in life on your own. A counselor can help you find what is right for you. It is difficult to take that first step but I promise you if you do your life will change for the positive. I know because I had to do it too.
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