[suesworl]

I play the slots too often, and this past week, I went crazy and spent over $400 there, which took a big chunk out of our bank account, in the meantime, I am supplementing our money with quick loans etc, which I know is not a good thing, however, I am trying to keep money in the account, but I know gambling does not help, I know what I did was wrong, and I hope and pray I never do that again, problem is my husband now accepting it and carrying on, he is in the doldrums, not speaking much to me, and bummed out over our finances, we are in bad shape. I retired last year, however money was not an issue when I agreed to retire, but now money is, I am starting a job soon, so I can bring more money into the household. I am scared as to what he will do, and I don't know how to deal with him right now. My apologies can only go so far. Any help would be appreciated. Hubby is quite stubborn and tends to hold on to grudges big time, so it is difficult.

[Fr_Chuck]

This is serious and yes he should be very upset and mad, It seems like you are not the one that understands how serious this is, the short loans often just make it much much worst.

I think that if you were starting counseling for a gambling problem, it would help, but yes mad and upset for a long time is to be expected

[N0help4u]

I'd be upset too thinking of a nest egg that you could have built on and what all could have been done with the money only to find out Its down the drain

[odinn7]

You say you play the slots too often... well, he has probably finally had enough of you doing so and losing money that you need to live. Short loans makes the whole thing worse for you so that's not the answer... in fact, it just adds to the problem that you've already created.

And I agree with Fr_Chuck... it sounds like he understands how serious this is while it doesn't seem like as much of a deal to you... you're concerned that he is mad at you. Maybe you should be mad at yourself as well.

[N0help4u]

You better go cold turkey because next level mad could be divorce court. You admit to often and 400. In one pop. I can't imagine the big picture that he lives with the toll the full amount over time has beenon

[joypulv]

First, pay all the quick loans off. It is ludicrous to pay usury rates for money to put in your savings account just to keep the balance.
Second, ask hubby to cut your access to that savings account. Take your name off the account. Admit that you have a problem.
Third, stop thinking that an apology demands acceptance. An apology consists of proving you won't do this again by not doing it again, and that is going to take a LONG TIME.