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    Jul 10, 2013, 12:06 PM
    My girlfriend has dumped me and I am confused.
    Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 and a half years now. We have shared some amazing memories been on holiday twice (skiing and a cruise) the first 2 years were amazing. We had our ups and down yeah, doesn't every relationship? Basically 1 year ago around this time in July I broke up with her because I didn't think I wanted her no more or loved her. 1 month went by and I realized that I lost the best thing I've ever had! I went crawling back and with some hard work she took me back! We are now in July 2013 and exactly the same thing has happened but she has finished the relationship with me! She has said she isn't in love with me anymore, and she doesn't feel attracted to me how she used to be! Yes I have been a **** for the last few months but not constantly! I really do love this girl and I believe she loves me too! This started when she came back from a girls holiday in Corfu, she was fine the day she came back but I sensed she was acting weird so the next day I text her saying do you think we have drifted? She said yes. The day before she got home she was telling me how much she missed me and that she loved me! I'm sooo confused here!

    Basically she broke up with me saying, she isn't in love with me anymore and wants to be on her own. She has given me a mixed range of emotions saying she doesn't know what she wants and now she has come to this conclusion that she really doesn't want it!

    I really do love this girl. We have been through a lot together and match up so right! We are so comfortable around each other it's unreal! I need advice, should I go no contact and do things so she realized she did the wrong thing? I know I may hear things I don't want to but I really do need advice on how to get her back! I've searched the internet every day for the last week. Studying the psychology of a girl's mind, I've also been studying where I went wrong in the relationship and how I'm going to improve! We got into a routine which was finish work sit on sofa going to sleep! Which made it boring! It may sound as I'm obsessive but I'm not. I haven't contacted her begging for her! I did that the first 2 days then stopped!

    HEELLPP! I love this girl!
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    Jul 10, 2013, 12:09 PM
    You can't make her love you. You need to quit communicating with her and get over her. As long as you have anything to remind you of her or any contact you are only making it harder on yourself. Let her go and she can see what she lost. As long as you linger she is having time to get over you or validate why she is over you
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    Jul 10, 2013, 12:16 PM
    It makes a lot of sense what your saying! I no I can't make her do something she doesn't want. Maybe no contact would be the best to go? I no deep down she loves me. When she came back from holiday she said to me she wants to go out more and party! This was one of the reasons for ending it! I appreciate your answer. Thanks
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    Jul 10, 2013, 12:42 PM
    She may love you but its only the memories of what she HAD with you, she put you in past tense and moved on with her memories - minus you
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    Jul 10, 2013, 01:25 PM
    Let her party and do her thing and you do yours without her and hope for the best and plan for the worst. Just leave her alone and get your own life that you enjoy and let her enjoy hers.

    How old are you both?
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    Jul 10, 2013, 03:37 PM
    Leave her alone. No communication with her, this will help you get over her. Let her enjoy her freedom and you enjoy yours.

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