[Alty]

Are you that stupid that you can't read properly I said I have money thanks!

People with money aren't homeless. If they're between homes they can go to a hotel. They don't need to live on the streets, which is what it means to be homeless. You're the one that said you're homeless.

Also, name calling is against the rules of this site. Watch your mouth young lady, or your choice to post here will be taken away from you.

[J_9]

No, I'm not stupid. I have money AND a house, AND a doctor. I'm not homeless.

If you have money, why are you homeless? I just don't get that.

[shyy]

I am homeless, but didn't you read I'm getting housed! I thought I could get some help, but you're a bunch of horrible pricks! You make people want to kill there self, I'm deleting my account I've had enough of this none of you understand anything

[J_9]

The point is, get housed FIRST!

Oh, and you can't delete your account. ;)

[Alty]

No, I'm not stupid. I have money AND a house, AND a doctor. I'm not homeless.

If you have money, why are you homeless? I just don't get that.

You and me both J. Homeless means no shelter at all. If you have money how are you homeless? I can understand not wanting to rent a place if you're in the process of purchasing a home, but why would you live on the streets? Why not get a hotel, or at least stay with friends?

Doesn't make any sense at all.

[Alty]

I am homeless, but didn't you read I'm getting housed! I thought I could get some help, but your a bunch of horrible pricks! You make people want to kill there self, I'm deleting my account I've had enough of this none of you understand anything

What do you mean by "I'm getting housed"? Is this some sort of welfare housing, government housing?

We never once said to kill yourself, we're not those kinds of people. We simply stated that facts, that someone without medical care, and without a roof over her head, should not be trying to conceive. But you don't care about the future of your baby, you only care about what you want, which is the very reason there are so many unfortunate children in the world today.

Good luck to you, and especially to your future child. I hope you calm down, re-read what we posted, and try to understand where we're coming from. You said you're not stupid, but you have yet to prove that claim. Please, prove it. Think about the child for a second, instead of thinking only about what you want.

[shyy]

I'm in emergency housing for homeless people

[Alty]

I'm in emergency housing for homeless people

Are you working? Is your partner? How old are you both?

I'm really not trying to be mean to you. I realize that that's the way you're taking it, because you don't want anyone telling you what you can and can't do. I get that. But this isn't a matter of what you want, it really isn't.

You said before that you've been through hell. Don't you want better for your child? What's the hurry? Wait until you're both back on your feet, you're healthy, and then have a baby. No one is saying that you should never have a child. Just wait a while, at least until things are a bit better.

Trust me, if things are tough now, they'll only be harder with a baby. Babies are a joy, they're a gift, but they suck the life right out of you. Even when you're in an ideal situation, it's really hard. There's never a perfect time to have a child, but there is a very wrong time to have one, and I really think that it's not a good time for you to try and conceive.

Wait a while. What can it hurt?

[smoothy]

Funny how someone that doesn't even have their own place to live... is telling those of us that OWN our own houses we don't understand anything.

Let me just say... when you manage to buy and pay for your own place... particularly when its worth well over Half a million dollars... trust me... you understand more than a few things.

And I do understand being down on your luck and having hard times... because I've been there. But having a baby is NOT one of the things I was thinking about at that time... in fact it's the last thing I wanted at that moment.

You think its hard now getting your life together... and if you are in a shelter... trust me in that you really don't have it together right now... a newborn kid is going to make it WAY harder to do it.

[J_9]

We aren't "horrible pricks." We are concerned about this baby you are wanting to have. This baby that will not have food or shelter, or a stable environment.

No one ever said to kill yourself. Maybe you need some counseling to get over that.

I don't have a problem with you having a baby. I have a problem with you being HOMELESS and having a baby.

What you need to do is get your priorities straight.

1) Get housed.
2) Get a doctor.
3) Get married.
4) Have a good nest egg put away.
5) Have a baby.

You are doing it all backwards.

[smoothy]

Apparently she "understands" far less than she thinks she does.

But then... its apparent to everyone else... if she understood everything... and had all the answers... she'd own and live on an Estate... and not be homeless right now.

There is no shame in being poor... but it is a shame to be rude and ungrateful.

You are known by the way you treat others, and I for one wasn't impressed how quickly the name calling started... after you was given very good and sound advice.

And incidentally... if you "have money"... why haven't you gone out and rented a place yet.

[Alty]

One question that still hasn't been answered. Yes, you say you have money. Do you have more money coming in? Do you and your partner both have well paying jobs? It would seem that you don't, since you are living in a homeless shelter.

Having a bit of money tucked away is great, but if there's no more coming in, that money will quickly run out. Babies need things, they need food, they need clothes, they need diapers, they need a place to sleep, they need medical care, they need need need. Have you sat down and made a list of items the baby will need, and the cost? Have you figured out how much it will cost for you to buy diapers every month, formula, clothes (babies grow quickly), medication if it's needed? Also, if you are working now, that income will no longer be there when you go on maternity leave. What about after maternity leave, who will watch the baby? Daycare is not cheap.

You have to think about all of this before you have a child, not after. You're putting the buggy in front of the horse.