[shyy]

Me and my partner have been trying for a baby, for about 5 months and we've had no luck there's be so many sign's but it always comes back negative. When I've been on my period I've been getting exstreme pain, to the point where I can hardly stand and for ages I've been getting loads of different sorts of pains round my belly! My periods have been really heavy, all through the time when I'm not on my belly still seems to bloat

[J_9]

We really cannot give you any help here. I would recommend you see an OB/GYN for your issues along with a preconception workup.

It's possible you have cystic ovaries, endometriosis, or a number of other problems. Unfortunately, you will need certain tests to determine that. We can't do tests via the internet.

I would also like to remind you that it can take the average healthy couple up to a year of actively trying before conception takes place.

Are you monitoring your ovulation using the basal body temperature method? If not, that's a great place to start.

[shyy]

What does cystic ovaries, endometriosis,mean?
And no what's the basal body temperature method?

[J_9]

Cystic ovaries means cysts on ovaries.

Endometriosis is when cells from the lining of the uterus grow outside of the uterus.

Basal body temperature is an increase in body temperature when you take your temperature every morning at the same time while still in bed.

It might benefit you to learn more about your body before becoming pregnant.

[shyy]

I just read up on cysts on the ovaries, and I think that's what I have because I read through the signs and its seems to match but I have a problem I don't actually have a doctor at the moment as I'm currently homeless, waiting to be housed! And isit still possible to get pregnant if I do have a cyst on my overies?

[J_9]

Okay, so you are homeless and you are trying to get pregnant? What is wrong with that scenario?


shyy, I think you need to get your priorities straight and get into a stable environment before you even consider having a baby.

[shyy]

If you knew the hell I've had to live through you'd understand, its my decision and I isn't going to change it!

If you got a cyst could you still get pregnant?

[Alty]

Why in heavens name are you trying to conceive when you're homeless? Does that make any sense to you?

A baby not only needs a home, it also needs prenatal care (you can't even go to a doctor to find out if there's an issue, how will you afford to go to a doctor every month during your pregnancy? How will you afford the hospital bill when you deliver?) medical care after it's born, a crib, a stroller, car seat, clothes, diapers, formula (not all women can breastfeed), bottles, and so much more.

Find a home, find a doctor. When you can afford both, then try to conceive. Until then, you really don't have the right to have a child and put it in the same situation you're in right now.

[Alty]

If you knew the hell I've had to live through you'd understand, its my decision and I aint gonna change it!

If you got a cyst could you still get pregnant?

You've been through hell, so now you want someone else, an innocent child, to go through the same hell you did? Do you not see how wrong that is?

If you have questions about your medical health, see a doctor. If you can't afford one, you're on your own. I for one will not help you conceive at this point.

Good luck. You're going to need it.

[J_9]

You "ain't gonna change it." Well, if you want the kid, you WILL change it. You risk having that child taken from you at birth if you are homeless at the time of birth. But you don't care, do you? You just want to be pregnant.

You don't care that you are going to place that child through the same hell you have been through. But you don't care. You don't care that you can't put a roof over the child's head, or food in its mouth. You don't care that you can't afford diapers or clothes.

Oh, that's right. That's what welfare is for. So I can pay for your illegitimate child.

You really don't have a clue. I take babies away from their mothers all of the time because they are in the same situation you are in. But they don't care until they are released from the hospital and their baby goes with a social worker into a foster home.

[J_9]

how will you afford to go to a doctor every month during your pregnancy? How will you afford the hospital bill when you deliver?)

If the OP is in the U.S. I'll be paying for it. That's how she can afford it.

[shyy]

See you got it all wrong! I don't pay for a doctors? I get it free and the only reason I haven't got a doctor yet is because I've got to wait for a place so I know what area I need to get a doctors in and I'm going to be housed very soon, just waiting on the biding and I've got the money for all that I'm not stupid

[J_9]

Yes, if you are trying to conceive without stability, you are stupid.

Get your priorities straight unless you want your child to go through the same hell you went through, or worse.

[smoothy]

See you got it all wrong! I don't pay for a doctors? I get it free and the only reason I havnt got a doctor yet is cus I've got to wait for a place so I know what area I need to get a doctors in and I'm going to be housed very soon, just waiting on the biding and I've got the money for all that I'm not stupid

YOU get it free because those of us that have to pay taxes because we have to work for a living pay for it... WE have to think CAN WE AFFORD this after we have to pay our taxes so people like you who don't get free handouts and welfare so you can have even more kids that we the taxpayers have to pay even more taxes to support.

Sorry, but that's a REAL sore point with me... because I have never gotten anything for free... and I grew up poor... paid for 100% of my own college.. spent a decade paying it back, and it was damn hard... while other people were getting free rides their entire lives... and in some cases multiple generations of the same family..

But with that rant out of the way... I hope you do get a place... and get a job.. and pay taxes and have to buy your own insurance to pay your own bills... so you can one day really understand everything I just said. And then, and only then do you actually have a child... when you are able to support it from your own paycheck... and not a welfare check.

[J_9]

Ok, you are in the UK, you get your healthcare free. Lucky you.

However, your baby's formula isn't free. Clothes aren't free. Diapers aren't free.

[Alty]

See you got it all wrong! I don't pay for a doctors? I get it free and the only reason I havnt got a doctor yet is cus I've got to wait for a place so I know what area I need to get a doctors in and I'm going to be housed very soon, just waiting on the biding and I've got the money for all that I'm not stupid

You have the money for all of that, yet you're homeless. That means without shelter, without a roof over your head. If you have the money, why do you not have a place to stay? You are the one that told us you're homeless. Do you know what homeless means?

You don't pay for doctors? If so, find a doctor and go, you have no reason not to. Until then, live with the pain, and the bleeding until you get a proper diagnosis and treatment.

It's stupid not to get properly diagnosed, something no one online can do. If you have cysts or endometriosis, you will need treatment.

[Wondergirl]

See you got it all wrong! I don't pay for a doctors? I get it free

Why is it free?

[J_9]

Socialized medicine. That's why it's free.

[shyy]

Are you that stupid that you can't read properly I said I have money thanks!

[shyy]

I'm in the uk, NHS