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doodlebug94 · Mar 31, 2007, 12:02 PM

My boyfriend is pressuring to have sex with him!! What should I do?
I mean I think that I would be ready to have sex but I don't want to regret anything later on in my life. So, now this is me asking you form your advice on this this subject.
:confused:

~Morghan~

sypher373 · Mar 31, 2007, 12:05 PM

Have you talked to him about it? Tell him how uncomfotable he makes you feel with the pressure. If that makes him angry, he's not worth it anyway

kaitou · Mar 31, 2007, 12:08 PM

How old are you? Judgining from the 94 in your name I'm guessing 13. If you're 13 you're way too young to have sex. If you're having doubt about whether you want to have sex with him, you probably shouldn't.

louie1 · Mar 31, 2007, 01:49 PM

Firstly if you are not 16 yet then it is illegal to have sex but more importantly the fact that you are asking advice and have concerns tells me that you are not ready!

Do not ever let anyone pressurize you into having sex because that is as bad as rape and you will never thank them for it!

grammadidi · Mar 31, 2007, 02:12 PM

When you make the choice to have sex it should never be because you feel pressured into it. It should be a mature decision with both of you taking all the consequences and feelings into consideration. Let me ask you some questions...

Are you BOTH prepared physically, emotionally, financially, etc. to be parents? No form of birth control is 100% effective except abstinence.

Are you BOTH familiar with issues such as pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, etc?

Are you BOTH prepared to use some form of birth control? It is not enough that only one of you do.

Are you BOTH familiar with information about cancer of the cervix, the causes and risks?

If you are very young (under 18) are you aware of the risks of teen pregnancy (i.e. low birth weight babies, birth defects, etc.) and, if so, can you cope with that?

If you are still in school are you prepared for your boyfriend to brag to his friends and the possibility of being labelled as a 'slut'? (Not saying it WILL happen, but it's highly possible.)

I am sure there are a lot of other issues you might want to think about first, but there's a start.

A lot of girls say I won't have sex until I am really in love. Then they fall in love with every guy who shows an interest in them! If I were you I would really think this out. I think the fact that you are concerned about making a mistake that you might regret for the rest of your life is a clue that you are not ready.

If people advise you to go ahead, or even not to do so, then I urge you to see where they are in life and from where their knowledge/experience lies.

I am confident you will make the best decision for you both. The fact that you are mature enough to think first says a lot. Hopefully he will respect you enough to accept your decision if it is no. If not, he isn't worth the risk!

Hugs, Didi