[nik90]

Hi guy,

I've been going out with this girl for 5 months and we hit it off really well. We both had amazing chemistry that we never felt before but things went downhill when I lost my drivers license and then I couldn't travel to work I lost my job after 3 months into relationship.

I tried my best to look for a job next two months but I wasn't successful. She was hanging out with friends, going clubbing and doing what ever she wanted, but she was also doing ecstacy while clubbing 2-3 a months and I was not okay with it. So we had little argument over it and next day she came to my place and told me she wants to break up (mind you this was one day before her birthday) because I don't have a job, license and wasn't able to have fulfilling life as much as I did before. I agreed to the breakup and said OK as you wish. She started crying few times and wasn't sure if it was the right thing but anyway we broke up.

I went strictly NC and after few days she contacted me wanting to talk, she said she doesn't know what's wrong with her, why she is unhappy because I have been perfect boyfriend (even gave her one of my cars because she didn't have hers, I thought it would be easier to see each other) and something is wrong with her.


She asked me to give her one week space if its possible to see why she is feeling like this and I said OK no problem and completely agreed.

What I would like to know is that if she contacts me should I play hard to get or don't respond to her? That's the only thing I'm confused about. If she doesn't contact me I know I'm strong enough and I can move on with my life.

[Jessica97]

Me and my boyfriend of 5 months just broke up a few days ago, and we hung out right after we broke up, and then I found out he's already with another girl. So I quit talking to him unless it was absolutely necessary. Since then, he has gotten very jealous wondering who I'm with & things like that. Last night I went to a party, and he came with his new girlfriend, but the whole time he was watching me to see what I was doing, and he was getting really upset. I don't really know if that means he wants me back, or if he's still just being protective like he was when we were together, but I do know that ever since I quit talking to him as much he's been getting more interested in me. I think, if you want her back, you should play hard to get, like when she texts you wait a while before you text her back & make her wonder what's keeping you so busy that you can barely text her back. But don't be mean or anything, make it so she knows you are interested, but also make sure she knows you can easily move on & find someone else (even if that's not the case).

[Cat1864]

Whatever you do, do not play games. If you want to talk to her, do so. If you don't, then politely tell her not to contact you. Games are what children play because they don't know better.

If you decide to talk to her, do not try to get back together until both of you understand that the past is the past. Your relationship will not be the same as it was.

Frankly, I think you need to stay away from her for now. Get back up on your feet and get your life back on track. Don't allow her to put drama and confusion into your life that you do not need.

Look at it this way, you were barely getting to know each other when you lost your job. She sounds like she is ready to be there for the good times, parties and what you can do for her, but she isn't ready for the down times. You have probably gotten a very good look at how she deals with difficulties in a relationship. Is she what you are looking for or do you think moving on is better for you?

[talaniman]

If you got your car back from her then there is no need to respond to her at all. Better to get your own life in order and get a drug free girlfriend who cars more about you than she does partying.

I agree with Cat, who needs someone that can't stick by you when you are down?

[nik90]

Thank you guys for quick replays.
I guess I'm just going to move on with my life and see what will happen from her side

[talaniman]

Live your life and don't care what her side is about.