[wescay92]

When I first began talking to her she was still talking to the guy she was involved with but not officially together for 3 years. In the past I was cheated on and dumped after 2 years. That tore me apart and I defensed myself from other girls and it changed me. After I saw her texting him, I confronted her about it and she denies saying things to him such as calling him babe etc. She also went out of town with him while we were talking. We began dating and it really bothered me so I attempted to break up with her but she just wouldn't let me go. I started talking to another girl and the most I ever did was hang out with her and kiss her. Well my girlfriend found out and I apologized and told her I was sorry and I loved her. I explained what influenced me to do such a horrible thing; I still regret doing.

After we agreed to put it behind us, I found out she was talking to some guy and I do not know if they did anything all I know is they were talking about hanging out and cuddling and calling each other pet names. I broke up with her and she chased me forever. I finally accepted her apology and we got back together. We began living together after a little while and I have made mistakes such as staying out late and not coming home. Lately she has been visiting her family out of town a lot and I told her it bothered me because I felt like she was forgetting about me and there was no quality time. After arguing I told her she needs to tell me whether she is ready and have enough time for me.

We sat down and talked she said she felt like we were married and that she needs time and space to think about the situation. She also said what I did before still bugs her and she feels like it is inhibiting her ability to make the best of the relationship. We both agreed we'd live in separate households so she can feel the missing me and appreciate what we truly had. She said she needs some time and space.

However, a friend told me one of her friends told her she has been talking to some one else who has been sweet to her and her friends are encouraging her to leave me for him. I confronted her about it and she says there is no one else but her friends do think we shouldn't be together because of what I did. She said that doesn't have any influence on her what so ever but they do say that. When she tells me there isn't someone else I believe her but this has happened to me before and based on the timing of everything that happened and my gut extinct I do think she is lying about there not being someone else.

When we are together its amazing, Ive never loved anyone so much before. I truly want to marry this girl and start a family with her in the future despite what happened. I just don't know what to do now and I don't know what to think. Please help. :(

[talaniman]

I would leave her alone until I could think rationally and not just be following my heart. Its easy, just do as she says and give her plenty of space. This thing whatever it was falling apart fast any way and you need your own time and space. You need it more than she does and from what you wrote, be glad to have some freedom.

Trust your guy and tell the heart to shut up, and find some peace to figure out if she is even marriage material. Sorry guy I know it sucks, but may be a blessing in disguise.

[wescay92]

I would leave her alone until I could think rationally and not just be following my heart. Its easy, just do as she says and give her plenty of space. This thing whatever it was falling apart fast any way and you need your own time and space. You need it more than she does and from what you wrote, be glad to have some freedom.

Trust your guy and tell the heart to shut up, and find some peace to figure out if she is even marriage material. Sorry guy I know it sucks, but may be a blessing in disguise.

Thank you talaniman. It may very well be a blessing and you're right. I think I may need it more than she is. If its really for the better good then it may just be for the greater good. If not, then there is always a new chapter to be written in my book right?

[talaniman]

Only you can give yourself a chance to find out, and a clear cool head makes better decisions.