[stubbsof3]

I been in a long-term relationship with the
Father of my 2 kids and pregnant right now
With our 3 child due on Christmas. I so hurt right
Now.Find out he sexting a girl the he work with
.It was only for 1 night while he was at work.I called the girl she apologize.She said she was told he was single and didn't know.He had a family.He tells me sorry and that he know he ed up.But can't change what he done. I hurt don't know what to do. 9 years 3 kids and pregnant. What to do? I not mad at the girl.I mad at him.

[Oliver2011]

"hurt"? You should be liviid. And how about outraged?

So after you calm down you need to understand 2 things: How can people at work not know he is married? He is probably with those people during awake hours more than he is with you. The second thing is something drove him to do this. Is there something going on or not going on in your relationship where he would seek the attention of another woman?

[stubbsof3]

He just started this job like a week and a half. He work 12am to 5am porter at a restaurant. I hurt and embarrass. We be dating since 8th grade.He a good father. I just don't know if I can forgive.I not sure if we can work this out.yea we argue a lot.our kids are 6years old and 9 months.1on the way.He never sexually cheated but this sexting hurt.

[Fr_Chuck]

Most likely he just got caught up in the talk and attention, it is easy to type things since it is not "real life " Yes he should have said no, but again, it is not really that much

[stubbsof3]

He sent a pic of his private part.that hurts.

[Jake2008]

Does he have a problem keeping a job? His sexting/behavior in general, might have something to do with that.

After a week and a half at a new job, he's sexting a co-worker a picture of his private parts-is he trying to get fired?

I doubt he's a stranger to being 'single', as one would think just general banter in the workplace the subject of a family would come up, and he has one- but yet nobody knew?

I would be digging a little deeper into his 'activities', and find out just how 'single' he is pretending to be.

[stubbsof3]

Yea.. I just don't know what to do. We have communicate issue.

[Alty]

Have you considered family counseling?

Why aren't you married? You have two kids together, one on the way. Why not commit?

Is that the issue here, neither on of you can make the actual commitment to be a family?

[Handyman2007]

Why would you have 2 children with a man, get pregnant for a third and not be married. You need to access this situation and find out why he has not married you. He sounds like a player.

[stubbsof3]

Yea we start taking counseling this week coming up and going to church Sunday.I wanted to get married but not so sure after this situation. I think we might need some time apart.I want him to come to me because he ed up not me.

[stubbsof3]

Yea we start taking counseling this week coming up and going to church Sunday.I wanted to get married but not so sure after this situation. I think we might need some time apart.I want him to come to me because he ed up not me.

"hurt"? You should be liviid. And how about outraged?

So after you calm down you need to understand 2 things: How can people at work not know he is married? He is probably with those people during awake hours more than he is with you. The second thing is something drove him to do this. Is there something going on or not going on in your relationship where he would seek the attention of another woman?

[stubbsof3]

Yea we start taking counseling this week coming up and going to church Sunday.I wanted to get married but not so sure after this situation. I think we might need some time apart.I want him to come to me because he ed up not me.
QUOTE=Alty;3480183]Have you considered family counseling?

Why aren't you married? You have two kids together, one on the way. Why not commit?

Is that the issue here, neither on of you can make the actual commitment to be a family?[/QUOTE]