[worry_momma]

I am 7 months pregnant and I am taking sharp pains all threw my chest and all down my left side, it feels like a pulled muscle but I didn't do anything to pull a muscle. I woke up like this. The pain has been around for two days now and I was wondering if it's something I should be worried about, should I go see the doctor? Could it be from quiting smoking?

Ok here it is, I am 17 and yes I am 7 months pregnant please don't judge. My boyfriend and I have known each other since we were young. He is now 20 and I am 17 as I said before. But the problem is my boyfriend and I dated before but he cheated on me and left me for his ex girlfriend. We got back together 5 months after. My boyfriend has shown me that I can't trust him but on the other side he shown me I can trust him.

I caught him having on line sex on Facebook with a porn star. He downloaded porn on his cell after I asked him not to even look at porn. His ex girlfriend, not the one he left me for, is living with his aunt and she came to the house and she was all over him and him all over her.

Despite all of that, he works to help me and our baby and his mom, he cleans, cooks, is always there for me, and he hasn't cheated on me again, as I know. Should I trust him or not?

[ScottGem]

I wouldn't. He has a long way to go to earn your trust back.

[Fr_Chuck]

And most likely he is still looking at porn, many men do, it has nothing to do about you, and most men, when women "order" them to stop, lie and say they will but they don't

[Homegirl 50]

I would not trust him. The porn is a small thing the fact that another ex came to the house and they were all over each other is a big reason not to trust him. I know you are pregnant but why are you still with him?

[worry_momma]

I agree and he has lied to me about it before and he is always asking me for sex and I am pregnant I don't feel good 99% of the time. When I say no sometimes he get's mad at me. I don' know what to do most of the time, and it don't help the fact of his mom is always on my case. I do everything for my boyfriend and etc I keep the house clean I cook all meals and I still have more time to have me time but is bilogical mom is always saying I don't do anything and I'm lazy etc I am about to have a meantel brake down I really don't know what to do anymore. Could you guys help me

I am still with him because I am stuck in the times of I love him and I feel like I can't be without him. He dose do a lot for me but I don't feel like it's enugh.

[joypulv]

Can you go back to your family?
That would be best. Even let them yell at you for a while, if that is what drove you away.

[worry_momma]

My dad and I are no close anymore do to of things I did in the past and my mom lives in a city I will not raise my son in and my moms side of the family but my nan and a few cousins I have are bad people and I love the place I am at its beautiful peaceful and safe, I don' want to leave the place I'm at but I don't know how to handle my boyfriend and his mom

[Homegirl 50]

You don't need to be under this kind of pressure with baby coming so soon. It sounds like you are trapped. You are in a bad place no matter how pleasant you say it is and I would imagine it will not get better. You might want to consider going home to mom.

[worry_momma]

I cook,I clean,I make him supper and it's made before he get's home from work he get's to relax and I am working my off for him. His family looks at me hen something isn't done but all I ask is for a little help, on weekends he always go's out with friends and one of his friends I do not trust but he is always brings him over. He is always saying he works his off at work and he is bringing in the money and all I do is sit on my when I do more then he even realizes. And it sucks because I am always sick

[Homegirl 50]

Is there nowhere else you can go? You need to stand up to him. How does he react when you try to talk to him? This is nit a good place for yo to be and like I said it will only get worse.

[worry_momma]

I try to talk to him about important things but he eather don't listen to me, pretends he's a sleep,or changes the subject. And I asked him to help me clean yesterday but he called his friend and got him over here, and went 3 wheeling then after his friend left he asked for sex and I didn't want to but he would have been mad and I couldn't stand to hear him naging me etc so I just gave him what he wanted untell I got sick

[J_9]

Sounds like a very disruptive and combustible relationship. This one is going to smoke and burn whether you get out now. However, getting out now would save you the stress to deal with your baby. Stress like this is not good for the fetus you are carrying.

It's apparent to those of us who are not involved in the situation that he wants to have fun and get his rocks off. He doesn't care about you or this baby.

[worry_momma]

I need to clean the house again I made this spotless yesterday but he messed everything up again and his mom is coming home at 7 and she would be mad if I don't get this place spotless again. But I just want some time to myself some time to take a shawer and relax but this place is a mess. What should I do? And yes it is stress flu and yes it will be hard with my son which is born in augast 20th

[J_9]

Stress flu?

At your tender age of 17, you are not prepared mentally, emotionally or physically for this amount of stress. You think you are stressed now? Wait until this baby comes. Hopefully you will have a vaginal delivery, but most of the 17 year olds that I deliver are by cesarean section because their young bodies are not prepared to deliver a baby. That will put you at a 6 week recovery wherein you will not be able to lift anything heavier than baby, and you won't have the energy for all of this work.

You are being used as a slave, but you don't see it.

Get out now to other family or friends before you spontaneously combust.

[worry_momma]

Stressful* and you I agree I just don't know how to tell my boyfriend or his family.I don't know where to go or how at that I have so much baby stuff now and I don't know how I would get off the island I have no money

I am 7 months pregnant should I be getting morning sickness still if not then hwat could be making me sick

I don't care anymore my loving boyfriend can clean the stupid house.I am sick and today is going to be a me day I don't care who says what ill tell them up

[JudyKayTee]

I read your other thread - it could be stress.

What does your ob/gyn say?

[worry_momma]

I haven't been to a dr about it yet and you I can see how it maybe stress

[J_9]

You haven't been to a doctor your entire pregnancy?

Some women have morning sickness all throughout pregnancy, yet stress would be my guess in your situation.

[worry_momma]

No no I just haven't been to a dr about the sickness I'm all up to date on my appontments for the prenantcy

[JudyKayTee]

Whew! Okay, most likely you are just stressed out because of your situation. This can be harmful to baby, the stress accompanied by your age. You might want to contact your doctor about this.

Did you tell the Doctor that you are sick "all the time"?