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grogrun · Jun 2, 2013, 03:56 AM

So, few days ago, my girlfriend (29) asked me (28) if we could take a short break. She said she was confused and didn't know what she wanted with her life.

Obviously I was kind of freaked out because when have you seen anyone get back together after a break? I thought she was basically breaking up with me.

We got together 3-4 months after she had broken up with her ex whom she was with for 6 years. We’ve been together for 4 months and we’ve been mostly happy and very much in love (When she asked me for a break she swore her love for me was real and that I wasn't just a rebound - but now she has no idea what she wants.)

She said I didn’t do anything wrong - exactly the opposite. She said I was amazing and great and everything.

That didn’t help me much. How was I supposed to learn what I did wrong if she says I did everything right? I couldn’t even blame myself.

I asked her if we were breaking up but she said no, that she needed a break to think about what she really wants.

I was/am hurt, obviously, but I told her that OK, we can try the break. I told her that I would be there for her is she wanted anything.

From now on I won’t contact her unless she contacts me first.

She sent me a few emails asking how I was and saying she was feeling terrible.

She’s also seeing a therapist in a few days but I doubt that’s going to help me much. But I guess there’s a slim chance the therapist might help her realize she actually wanted be with me. Or I’m just naïve.

I guess my question would be, what’s the chance of her coming around?

I’m super messed up right now, I’m hurting, I don’t know what to do, I can’t concentrate on anything.

I’m not sure if we broke up or what.

JTRees · Jun 2, 2013, 08:09 AM

I'be done this before simply because I was busy and issues with my family and I wouldn't worry and if she does break up with you there's plenty more girls for u

talaniman · Jun 2, 2013, 04:27 PM

Leave her alone to deal with her issues my friend, and go about your own business without her for a while. That's what you do. Nobody knows how long she will take to handle her confusion or if this is a break up or not, but she should let you know something soon so you won't be in limbo.

Sucks but give her a few weeks and then talk and get some real answers for her. Just me, a break is a break up, the reasons don't matter. Maybe its best you see it that way too. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst.