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patnatwilla · Jun 1, 2013, 11:00 PM

I'm probably the shyest guy in school when it comes to asking out girls. There's this girl in my grade named Madison that's really beautiful. We've been OK friends for the past couple months, and since about a week ago we've become kind of close. I want to ask her out, but I'm too shy and worried to ask her out. We're like total opposites in every way. She's popular, I'm 'm really shy and I'm pretty sure she'll reject me. What do I do??

Homegirl 50 · Jun 2, 2013, 06:39 AM

If you can't ask her out, how do you think you can get her to ask you out?

If you really like this girl, you need to ask her out. If she says no, then you know "what's up" but you also know that you can ask a girl out. If she says yes, that would be great.
You can sit around and wonder or you can say something. A closed mouth does not get fed.

patnatwilla · Jun 2, 2013, 10:13 AM

Thanks for the advice.

patnatwilla · Jun 2, 2013, 10:52 AM

So earlier I asked this question about whether to ask out this girl. Somebody answered that I should but now I'm dating somebody else so what do I do? Break up with the girlfriend I have right now and ask her out or keep my current girlfriend and wait until next year. I only have 3 days of school left in the seventh grade, my girlfriend is in sixth grade and my friends and even some teachers say that I should be dating a girl in my grade instead. The girl that I like is in my grade, and I like her more than my current girlfriend. What do I do?

talaniman · Jun 2, 2013, 11:06 AM

Hey shy guy, just one girl at a time and stop kissing on exes on the bus. That kind of thing get around.

No need for a different thread about the same thing either. That gets so confusing.

Homegirl 50 · Jun 2, 2013, 11:13 AM

You mean to tell me you are worried about being too shy to ask a girl out and you already have a girl friend and you're in 7th grade? Good grief! One girl at a time. You are being very unfair to the girl you are currently dating because you are here asking about asking another one out.
At your age you should not be dating period.

joypulv · Jun 2, 2013, 01:32 PM

Someone please tell this old lady something: how do kids this age go on dates anyway? We didn't go on 'dates' until we could drive. It had a whole aura of independence about it. Do parents drop you at the mall, and that's called a date? Just curious - not putting it down.

In my teen years, the process of getting to the date stage involved microseconds, seconds, minutes, and many minutes of words and smiles exchanged while passing by in the halls, pausing a little longer each time as we gauged the other person's interest and projected out own. Our friends helped out sometimes by passing along questions and answers and encouragement.
I don't think much has changed.

patnatwilla · Jun 2, 2013, 07:02 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Hey shy guy, just one girl at a time and stop kissing on exes on the bus. That kind of thing get around.

No need for a different thread about the same thing either. That gets so confusing.

Dude, I'm trying to take it one girl at a time and if you're older than 11 than you how comfusing and dramatic middle school is. It's not really my fault that girls like me. So sorry that I'm not perfect by your standards but if you're just going to hate on me than you're a waste of my time. BTW, if you just blurt stuff out like that then no wonder "that kind of thing gets around."

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You mean to tell me you are worried about being too shy to ask a girl out and you already have a girl friend and you're in 7th grade? Good grief! One girl at a time. You are being very unfair to the girl you are currently dating because you are here asking about asking another one out.
At your age you should not be dating period.

My girlfriend asked ME out thank you. And yes, I am trying my best to deal with my situation and take it one at a time. Girls like guys, guys like girls. It's an imperfect world filled with people who think that they are perfect. In case you didn't notice, I said I didn't know what to do: break up with my current girl friend and ask the girl that I like out, or stay with my girlfriend with the very slim chance we'll make it even half way through the summer. And honestly, you aren't the one to decide whether I can date or not. What do you know about kids these days, and who are you to decide when they're mature or old enough to date. I can date girls if I want to, and there's nothing you can do about i.t

Homegirl 50 · Jun 2, 2013, 07:58 PM

Your first question was about your being shy and wanting to know how to get this popular girl to ask you out, then you say you can't help it that girls like you. Which is it?
I know a think it two about kids as I have raised and help to raise a few.
I can't tell you that you can't date but I can say at 12 you should not be dating. What does dating at 12/13 entail anyway? Do your parents know you're dating?
You don't hang on to one girl while you get the nerve up to ask to date another one. That is pretty low and immature.

talaniman · Jun 2, 2013, 08:23 PM

Where did your girl ask you out too? Just curious. I have grand kids older than you and its possible that we older adults have a different idea of what dating is now, so indulge us and understand and lose the snark. We know its confusing at that age as we were just as confused too. Everyone is when the hormones and feelings start to kick in for the first time in your life.

Just go slow and think things through and do the right thing by yourself, and the girls you "date" is all. Generally when you are confused don't do anything you wouldn't want done to you. Can you remember that DUDE?