[Fillipa]

Basically when we met she had a girlfriend and she was not happy with her girlfriend. First she became my friend than best friend and she used to spend lots of time with me and she made me to tell her that I loved her but one day she just left like that. I tried to contact her once in a while. She responded to my phone calls but not every day. But when she came from uni holiday she did not meet me. I called her in fact and she made an excuse that she is tired. In fact she was going to another friend’s house and speaking about her girlfriend. I am not really upset if she is having a girlfriend or not in love with me. I just wanted her to speak with me at least once to my face but she never ever did.

I suffered for four years like hell. It affected my degree and uni. I was getting mad and the pain was unbearable, but finally I am fine. I do think about her but I do not go mad or feel the pain as I used to. But still the question in my head why she did not wanted to see me. The last message I have got from her after four years was she does not want to be anything with me never and ever. She did call my family. She did threaten me with police but I just wanted to see her and she can tell on my face to F*** off. On the other hand I met her after one year and you know what? She gone pal like a bloodless person and she was shacking. It was not only me with dry throat but she. She could not speak at all and the situation was really bad.

And still I do not understand what was wrong. Please kindly anyone in same situation give me advise that what was it. Is she in love? Why she cannot meet me?? And why it is too difficult for her to face me?? If I do not love someone I can decently go right in front of them and tell them then what was that. Why she cannot face me even after four years??

[talaniman]

Its not her fault you gave your heart to an uncaring coward, but it is your fault that you couldn't control your feelings, or take a hint to leave her alone.

Your feeling were true for her, but hers were not for you and she didn't/doesn't care about how you feel.

Leave it alone.

[Fillipa]

But why she could not face me..?

It happened it was not my fault either, I did not even realised that this will be that difficult I have never been in such situation before. I thought I am going to forget her day after day week after week months than years... I did not understant what happened..?

[talaniman]

Again, she was a coward and that's what cowards do when confronted. Now you know what happened. Take this as a learning experience and move on. What you thought she was a good honorable person? You were wrong.

Learning to let go is a valuable coping skill. Less drama and stress.