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shockey77 · May 29, 2013, 10:27 AM

Ok, so I met this girl and she is the most amazing woman I've ever met and we have almost everything in common and it just feels right, we talk for hours on skype and talk all the time, but her ex harasses her all the time and they have some feelings for each other, she still wants to be with me she doesn't want to get back with him, but at the same time she's asking me to wait until summer is over and she has time to get closure. We had a time when we both revealed how much we care about each other and how much she wanted to be mine, but now I don't know what to do I'm miserable everyday without her and I just don't know what I can do to ensure that we end up together.

Wondergirl · May 29, 2013, 10:37 AM

"she doesn't want to get back with him, but at the same time she's asking me to wait until summer is over and she has time to get closure"

Okay. Let's back up the bus. Time to get closure? For what? She no longer likes him, no longer dates him, is no longer interested in him, so why the need for closure? She walks away. Period. Or is he holding her little sister hostage?

And of course you don't want to be a rebound romance.

talaniman · May 29, 2013, 10:58 AM

She needs to heal from her ex and be ready to move on but never will as long as she stays in contact with him. Leave her alone guy, she is telling you she isn't ready for a relationship, so believe her.

Yeah its hard once you become attached to some one you have strong feelings for, but that doesn't change the fact she NEEDS time, and its unfair for you to wait in limbo while she handles her business properly.

Have your own fun without her, and see what happens when summer is over. Waiting for others is tough, but waiting in misery is even worse so don't do it.

Oliver2011 · May 29, 2013, 11:04 AM

"but now I don't know what to do I'm miserable everyday without her and I just don't know what I can do to ensure that we end up together."

How long have you known her? It doesn't seem like long from what you posted but that is just a guess. And already you know her well enough to know that you are miserable without her?

Do you jump into relationships fully committed ready to get married this quickly all the time? My guess if you gave me a honest answer, that answer would be yes. I dated my partner for 2 or 2.5 years before I made a commitment. And that was while seeing others too.

You need to allow her to go through whatever closure she wants, while you go have a good time and learn some things about yourself. Don't be dependent on others for your happiness.