[ScottGem]

my boyfriend has a work and his parents already knew about this. but i don't want to be with his grandma. bcos his grandmother is bad.

His parents know, but they haven't insisted you go to the doctor?

[Alty]

my boyfriend has a work and his parents already knew about this. but i don't want to be with his grandma. bcos his grandmother is bad.

Then don't be with the grandma. She's not responsible to take care of your mistake anyway, you are. She doesn't have to take you in or raise you and your baby.

How old is the boyfriend? Does he work full time? What will you do when he decides he doesn't want to be a teen father? How will you survive when he leaves and takes his paycheck with him? The odds aren't in your favor that he'll stick around and support you and the baby. Also, the odds aren't good that he's making enough to do that.

You still don't get it. You spread your legs, you made this decision. You got pregnant. You're the mommy now. Not your mom, not the boyfriends grandma, not anyone but you. Boyfriends come and go, and when he leaves (which is inevitable) you'll need to find some money to take him to court and force him to pay a very small amount to care for the child he helped create (not enough to provide the care the child needs) . Even then, chances are he won't pay, which means more court dates, and more court costs. You're on your own.

So, take the boyfriend, your mom, the grandma, and everyone else out of the equation. They won't take care of this child. That leaves you. How are YOU going to care for this child? How are YOU going to pay for a place to live, diapers, formula, a crib, clothes, doctors visits, etc. etc. etc? Not your boyfriend, not his grandma, not your mom, but YOU! This is all on you, no one else. So stop trying to make it someone else's responsibility.

[Fr_Chuck]

It is your duty to see a doctor, and no, no one can tell you when the due date is exactly, and no one knows if the baby is OK. Most places in US have welfare or women's clinics or even county health departments to do to.

It is your responsilibity to get into the programs.