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orangeapple · May 17, 2013, 04:23 PM

I'm in a really bad place right now sorry this is going to be a long story. So it all started when I was in grade 7 and I got mixed up with the wrong boy. We started sexting it was the worst mistake of my life and I will always regret it. My parents found out and it got ugly but I found my feet in grade 8. I met this boy that I really liked and we started dating he treated me right and respects me. So once we were kissing and my friend takes a video. She forgets to delete it and now am in grade 9 and her mom sees it and her mom thinks well you can guess. I felt horrible.

Then today my boyfriend kisses me goodbye and my other friends moms sees. She's a cool mom so she keeps the secret because my parents don't know but she too now thinks bad of me. At the end of the day most of my friends parents think bad of me and they have good reasons to as well some I have not mentioned.

Anyway to the point I think I need to break up with my boyfriend. I don't want a bad name anymore. I can't take it but breaking up after almost 10 months hurts. So what should I do? Break up or stay and forget what people think of me?

joypulv · May 17, 2013, 04:33 PM

You are really 14 at the end of 9th grade? (I was, but just asking.)
What you really need to do is sit down with your parents and tell them that you finally understand how doing too much sexual fooling around leads to a bad reputation, and you aren't going to do it anymore. If you can't control yourself, then do break up, but if you can, don't. Just spend less time with your boyfriend and more time studying and hanging out with friends in general.
Truthfully? You sound very immature, not just because of this but because of words like 'fwends.'

orangeapple · May 17, 2013, 04:47 PM

Thanks that really put things in perspective for me and my spelling was bad due to rushing through my question and yes am 14 in gr9 went to school early and I can't really tell my parents because I don't want to disappoint them anyway thanks

ScottGem · May 17, 2013, 05:56 PM

Gee, maybe the time to worry about disappointing your parents was BEFORE you went sneaking around behind their backs and getting yourself in trouble.

And people wonder why we say that children of 12 and 13 are too young to be dating. You are the poster child for why!

But Joy is right, you need to suck it up and tell your parents and throw yourself on their mercy. You may be grounded for the summer but you have to deal with the consequences of your actions.