[thequiet1]

So I'm 16 (almost 17) and I have a huge crush on my female teacher who's 26 (I'm girl as well)... Well I've been going through a lot of personal issues at home including the death of 2 people very close to me and she's always been a great listener. When I'm mad, upset, or sad, she lets me come to her room to cool off and talk to me about how I'm feeling and she usually finds a way to make me feel better. Anyway, she runs this gay/straight alliance group at my school that I recently joined and every time I'm around her my 'gaydar' goes off. Also, I think that she flirts with me because I'm the only student she hugs everyday and asks to see, she smiles whenever she sees me, she laughs at everything I say, and when I asked her if she had a boyfriend she made it very clear that she was single. I don't know, maybe this is all in my head but I think she likes me a little. Any other opinions or advice about my situation? Thanks in advance!

[teacherjenn4]

She is being a good listener and she cares about you as one of her students. Teachers are like a friend, counselor, and parent all combined in one. She takes interest in each of her students, including you. Don't believe for a second that she is going to have a relationship with you for even a second. She's not going to risk her career, her life, her family, etc. It's all in your head.

[Homegirl 50]

I think this is all in your head. She is being a good and kind teacher. If you have a crush, keep it to yourself. Don't put this teachers position on line because of it.
A responsible 26 year person is not going to interested in a teenager. You are not on the same page.

[keeks143]

She's being kind. Maybe you need to think about the actual affections you have. Are you grateful or actually in love? Remember, this is a TEACHER so be careful, do not tell her, things here and messing around can get both of you into a heck of a lot of trouble.

[thequiet1]

We live in California so it's legal.

[busymomma2013]

California

The age of consent is 18, with a misdemeanor if the minor has 3 or fewer years of difference with the major, and potentially a felony if the major is more than 3 years older. Penalties increase if the adult is 21 or older and the child is 15 or younger. It is automatically a felony if the minor is under 14.[48] It is worth emphasizing[citation needed] that unlike some other states, the close-in-age rule in California (3 years) do not provide an exception nor provide any defense;[citation needed] it merely lowers the crime to a misdemeanor.[citation needed] Under this law, two minors of the same age could both be prosecuted.

Ages of consent in North America - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

There might not be a law in California stating that a teacher can not date a student, but I am sure she would lose her job if she did.

[ScottGem]

We live in California so it's legal.

Please cite any law that you THINK makes this legal. As noted the age f consent is 18. And most laws refer to people in positions of influence. It is highly unlikely that it would be legal for a teacher to even date a student.

[teacherjenn4]

We live in California so it's legal.

No, it's not legal. I am a teacher in CA. We will be fired on the spot in my district for something as simple as driving a student home without a principal in the car with us. We also cannot date students, period. California laws apply to teachers. A relationship with a minor is grounds for job loss, and criminal prosecution. Do yourself a favor and listen to the adults here. Nothing is going to happen between the student and the teacher.

[thequiet1]

Didn't ask for the citation though.

[ScottGem]

Didn't ask for the citation though.

Then what makes you think its legal?