[Bobalina7227]

I'm a 13yr old girl and I have a crush on an 11yr old boy. He makes me feel special and he makes me laugh. But would it be okay if I dated him?

[amy12389034]

It's fine xxx if you are totally in love than date him xxx ask him out xx go for your dreams xxxx let him now how you feel xx
Please give me feedback on my answer xxx
Thanks

[Fr_Chuck]

It's fine xxx if you are totally in love than date him xxx ask him out xx go for your dreams xxxx let him now how you feel xx
please give me feedback on my answer xxx
thanks

Do you even think before you type. An 11 year old, what does the child's parents thing about this, she has to have their permission to date.

Next what type of "dating" does a 11 year old child do ?

At 11 they know nothing about love, and perhaps friends, but no, just because they have emotions and feelings does not mean it is right to act on it

[ScottGem]

No its not OK. You are too young to date and he is definitely too young. Don't try to grow up too soon.

Besides, at your ages, you need parental permission to date.

[ScottGem]

please give me feedback on my answer xxx
thanks

You asked for feedback so here it is. This is terrible advice. The media is glorifying romantic relationships even among young children. But young children are not mature enough to deal with a romantic relationship. They play at such relationships, its not real.

Encouraging children to emulate adult behaviors is just plain wrong. And its not acceptable on this site.

And one more thing. When you end a sentence you use a period, not a string of Xes. Please stop that practice.

[Homegirl 50]

Amy is only 11 herself and was just asking how to ask a boy out.

[Braileybourque1]

I'm 14, and I wouldn't see anything wrong with dating a 12 yr old... (Like you bring 13 and dating 11 yr old) as long as you feel okay with it and so does he, I wouldn't see why not!

[ScottGem]

I'm 14, and I wouldn't see anything wrong with dating a 12 yr old... (Like you bring 13 and dating 11 yr old) as long as you feel okay with it and so does he, I wouldn't see why not!!

Of course you wouldn't. You are a child as well. And as a child you can't date unless you have parental permission. And I know very few parents who would let an 11-12 year date. In fact any parents that would allow it ought to have their heads examined.

As I said above, children don't have the maturity to deal with such relationships. They are trying to grow up too soon and that can lead to a lot of problems. It is absolutely wrong to encourage children to emulate adult behaviors they are not ready for. Doing so will not be tolerated here.

[Braileybourque1]

You honestly can't say that because you don't know if they are mature or immature, it's 2 years and of course you have to talk to your parents about it... But you are underestimating "kids" if they are b

You honestly can't say that because you don't know if they are mature or immature, it's 2 years and of course you have to talk to your parents about it... But you are underestimating "kids" if they are both mature they should be able to handle it... If not they should wait to mature a little... Never know till you try.. Like I said good luck.

[JudyKayTee]

"You honestly can't say that because you don't know if they are mature or immature, it's 2 years and of course you have to talk to your parents about it... But you are underestimating "kids" if they are both mature they should be able to handle it... If not they should wait to mature a little... Never know till you try..! Like I said good luck.!"

This is why girls who have never been in a relationship should not be posting on relationship boards, and that includes teens.

[ScottGem]

You honestly can't say that because you don't know if they are mature or immature, it's 2 years and of course you have to talk to your parents about it... But you are underestimating "kids" if they are both mature they should be able to handle it... If not they should wait to mature a little... Never know till you try..! Like I said good luck.!

You are right, I don't know for sure. What I DO know is that the odds are highly against it. I do know that movies and TV and even books are pushing children to grow up too fast. I do know that children are trying to emulate adult behaviors that are highly unlikely to be prepared for.

There are parents here, whose children are at or near the ages involved here, who will tell you their children are not ready for such relationships.

And, I do know that you are clearly not old enough or mature enough to be giving advice about this.

[Braileybourque1]

You are right, I don't know for sure. What I DO know is that odds are highly against it. I do know that movies and TV and even books are pushing children to grow up too fast. I do know that children are trying to emulate adult behaviors that are highly unlikely to be prepared for.

There are parents here, whose children are at or near the ages involved here, who will tell you their children are not ready for such relationships.

And, I do know that you are clearly not old enough or mature enough to be giving advice about this.

No no you don't... It's a 13 yr old asking and me the 14 year old is giving advice... Whatever I'm done talking about it...

[Braileybourque1]

No no you don't... It's a 13 yr old asking and me the 14 year old is giving advice... Whatever I'm done talking about it....

You don't know how mature I am because you don't know me!

[Wondergirl]

You don't know how mature I am because you don't know me!!

Is your user name your real name? If so, that was not a mature decision.

[Homegirl 50]

An 11 year old boy has no business dating, he is not even a teen and I would seriously question the maturity level of a 13 year old girl who has a crush on an 11 year old boy.
At 14, you are barely a teen yourself. As mature as you think you are, your advice was poor and you are not mature enough to be giving dating advice to a 13 or an 11 year old.

[Bobalina7227]

It's fine xxx if you are totally in love than date him xxx ask him out xx go for your dreams xxxx let him now how you feel xx
please give me feedback on my answer xxx
thanks

Thank you. You are the only person that has helped me. Everyone else was thinking about themselves. You have helped me. I'm going to go for it. But I'll wait awhile and build up the friendship so he likes me for me and knows how to treat me and vice versa. I think I should also wait awhile because I'm not particularly pretty and I'm not that skinny either, so I will give it time. How exactly do the rest of you know how mature I am? I have grown up around adults. My siblings are 8 and 10 years older than me, I can wear high helps properly, I can stand straight and proper. Need I go on? If so tell me. I'll arrange it. Thanks for your feedback, but I'll go my own way.

[ScottGem]

Yes you do need to go on. If I had a dollar for every teen who thought they were mature beyond their years, I would stop playing the lottery. Having older siblings means nothing. Thinking that, because you can wear high heels properly, makes you more mature is an indication that you aren't. Taking the advice of someone your own age rather than more experienced adults in another indication as is going going your own way. You came here for advice from people more experienced than you. But you ignore any advice that you don't like. How mature is that? You may be mature for your age, but you aren't mature enough for this type of relationship. And, more importantly, the 11 year old boy isn't.

And where do you get that everyone else was thinking of themselves? Everyone is clearly only thinking of you and this other child. How does what you do affect us?

And you don't talk at all about what your parents think. Because they DO know you and they are the ones who need to give you permission.

[Homegirl 50]

Thank you. You are the only person that has helped me. Everyone else was thinking about themselves. You have helped me. I'm gonna go for it. But I'll wait awhile and build up the friendship so he likes me for me and knows how to treat me and vice versa. I think I should also wait awhile because I'm not particularly pretty and I'm not that skinny either, so I will give it time. How exactly do the rest of you know how mature I am? I have grown up around adults. My siblings are 8 and 10 years older than me, I can wear high helps properly, I can stand straight and proper. Need I go on?? If so tell me. I'll arrange it. Thanks for your feedback, but I'll go my own way.

You got advice you wanted to hear from a 14 year old, one who posted a question because she does not know how to talk to a boy she likes.
How do you think an 11 year old boy is going to know how to treat you? He's a kid. His concerns should not be how to treat a 13 year old girl friend. Your wearing heels does not make you mature. The fact that you are hung up on an 11 year old boy speaks to your lack of maturity. Ask your parents what they think of your wanting to date an 11 year old.

[J_9]

Better yet, ask the boy's parents. As a parent of an 11 year old boy, I don't think I would want you anywhere near my son. He is still a child and I don't want him to grow up too fast.

Boys this age are more interested in their xboxes than they are in girls.

[sassy712]

I would absolutley have a fit if I found out my 11 year was dating... or my 13 year old PERIOD! Both of you are too young to even think about dating! I mean really!