[princess tara]

So this is my problem! Me and my boy friend are 21. We don't have sex, but we occasionally have a hot make out session.

When he first tried to finger me it pained intensively and I told him to stop. After that we didn't try it again, but now recently I said him to do it again and I will bear it. Gosh!! HIs finger did not even enter inside and it gave me so much of pain. He kept trying for a minute and I can't take it in.:( . If his little finger didn't go in then what about that monster?! I am afraid and confused. He asked me to take his penis in my mouth. Its large! It filled my mouth entirely! I didn't know how to give him a blow job. He thrust it in my mouth.(not deep throat!) in about 10 seconds I feel that "gag" and tears flow!

What is exactly my problem? I am afraid I am not satisfying him:( please help. I love him so much. I want to give everything I can.

[JudyKayTee]

I have no idea what your problem is.

Boredom, perhaps?

[Fr_Chuck]

So you look up on the internet how to do oral sex properly,

And you make sure you are turned on and ready for anything to be "inserted" what happens when you do this by yourself?

[princess tara]

so you look up on the internet how to do oral sex properly,

Actually I never tried inserting anything by myself! And regarding oral.. I want to say this. When I take it in my mouth I feel a kind of salty taste... and I don't like it.. ;(
But my partner really wants oral.. so I did it..

[Wondergirl]

If he really cared about you, he would be slow and easy and gentle and give you ideas and lessons on how he wants oral sex. (Does he even know?? ) There is a special technique to giving oral sex and to do it well. He wouldn't just shove his penis into your mouth and down your throat. Are these his first sex experiences too?

[talaniman]

First of all you ARE having sex and are really inexperienced and trying to do too much with a lousy, selfish, uncaring teacher. That's your problem, and to correct it you need to talk more and get used for sex less.

Good hygiene before sex is where you start and learning to control the flow is crucial through self awareness. Read more and control your experiments with sex. Obviously you can't depend on just him to show you the pleasures of sex.

[JudyKayTee]

I wonder about the ages - "fingering" and oral are not considered to be sex. That makes me thinks that the parties involved are very young.

These questions usually lead to another question about "fingering," semen on his fingers, possible pregnancy.

[Wondergirl]

I wonder about the ages - "fingering" and oral are not considered to be sex. That makes me thinks that the parties involved are very young.

These questions usually lead to another question about "fingering," semen on his fingers, possible pregnancy.

And are they in a country that values/insists on the females' virginity?

[JudyKayTee]

Might be - maybe I'm wrong and the next question will be "I'm getting married, am I still a virgin?"