[mohar]

Hi, I am currently 17. I met this girl on the bus, as soon as I saw her, I found her very attractive. But we were friends for a while. She has a boyfriend who I have been friends with before. (We don’t talk much anymore). Months later after meeting her, we started flirting a bit. Until I realized I liked her. And so the things we talked about led to another and one day we revealed our feelings. She was surely not going to break up with her boyfriend. But she told me she liked me.

We started seeing each other and one day we kissed. It felt right but the same time wrong. She always argues with her boyfriend but never breaks up. She says she loves him, and loves me but refuses to break it off. We then started seeing each other more and more. Text more, started doing stuff but not to have sex. I have no idea what to do. I’m in love with her.. She claims to be in love with me, yet can’t break it off with the boyfriend.

She says she wants to see me, have a relationship in his back but nothing more for now. Until they break it off, but I don’t think she ever will. It’s been going on for around 2 years now. And then we started talking for a month because we broke it off after arguing. She then decides to text me saying she wants me back. We talked for a while. I went to see her, we kissed etc. and then I don’t know what happen and I decided to tell her were done. What should I do? A part of me is tired of being hurt; the other keeps hope to have her. It’s hard to let go of her. And she keeps telling me she’s in love with me. Help.

[joypulv]

'... then I don't know what happen and I decided to tell her were done.'

Good for you. Integrity. Not being a wimp. Some people just like to string two guys (or girls) along so that they always have one to fall back on, or even to get them to fight over them. Who needs that kind of person? She isn't the person you thought she was. Stay strong and break off all contact. You are too young to be carrying a torch.

[Homegirl 50]

If she loved you she would be with you. You did the right thing . Have no more contact with her. Two years is too long to carry on this mess.

[talaniman]

You tried to break this cheater up from her boyfriend, and it didn't work. She loves cheating on you both. Leave her alone like you should have when you met her.

[mohar]

Do you think her boyfriend should be aware of it? Or it will just cause me more problems?

[talaniman]

Walk away and stop this obsession with a lying cheater and do better for yourself. Your revenge will only feed your obsession and frustration since you never should have gone down this path with her in the first place. That makes you as guilty as she is so why advertise that stupidity?

End this now, and be done with it.

[Homegirl 50]

Do you think her boyfriend should be aware of it? Or it will just cause me more problems?

Mind your own business as far as that is concerned. You just leave this girl alone.

[mohar]

Mind your own business as far as that is concerned. You just leave this girl alone.

Im pretty sure she's cheated on him with other guys.

[Wondergirl]

Im pretty sure shes cheated on him with other guys.

And?

[Fr_Chuck]

It is not your business, he will not believe you anyway, think you are just doing that to get her.
Maybe even cause anger or a fight

Just walk away

[Homegirl 50]

Im pretty sure shes cheated on him with other guys.

She cheated on him with you, and for a long time, so what's your point? You are no better than she is because you knew she had a boy friend. Leave this alone. What she does is of no concern or business of yours.