[ibryngg87]

My girlfriend and I have dated for almost 3 years. She broke up with me once before for a period of about 9 months. However I started seeing someone right away that time so it wouldn't have been so long had I not (according to her).

I have a temper and we have been back together for more than a year. According to her the following has happened 10 times. I feel its more like 6 but what does it matter. I love her and one big reason for that is she won't let me get away with any BS, she will call me out on everything. When she does, my usual reaction is trying to talk about it, but when she gets something in her head that's how it is and nothing will change it whether she is right or wrong. Most times she's right, but not always. When she holds her ground and she is wrong, I get mad and yell and scream, I don't call her names or belittle her, I just get angry in general and threaten things like "fine I just wont come see you then, or fine just forget it" never any violent threats or anything of that nature.

The last time this happened, I promised her it would never happen again and that I would go to anger management and counseling. I shouldn't have made the promise right then as it was a busy time of year for me with work travels. I didn't get a chance to get the ball rolling and she came at me again with an issue she was flat out wrong about and I blew up again. She broke up with me saying I used my last chance.

I immediately got into an anger management and counseling program and it is going great. I feel like I can promise her without a doubt that I will never lose control of myself again. We were talking recently and it was progressing slowly but well. We had a trip planned before we broke up that we both still very much want to take. I asked her to still go and she was contemplating it. She was pretty much talking or texting me daily for a good 3 weeks, when she told me she was going to work on a Saturday, I called her at work and she wasn't there or didn't answer,(she never works on Saturdays) I let it go, then about 4 days later she said she was working late, so I called and again no answer. I asked her if she was seeing someone else. She blew up at me and called me yelling and said she was not seeing anyone else and that she decided its over! I do believe she is not seeing anyone and that I just overreacted. She has always been faithful and I have no reason to believe she is still not.

Anyway, I of course begged her not to break up. And was getting no responses at all from her. So I asked her if she wanted it to really be over with me for good? She didn't answer right away, not until I said look its only fair to both of us, I will leave you alone if you really tell me its over. She came back with this text" leave me alone". Ive asked a few times what that means, does she need time and space, or is it over for good? She will not reply. She is still friends with my family and kids on Facebook and last night played a game of words with friends with me, but then resigned/forfeited the game this morning.

I do not believe she wants to break up for good. I think Ive just blown a lot of trust with my anger and promise breaking. Im still going to counseling and its going great. We are supposed to go on our trip in 25 days, I have my flights booked as does she. I really want us to go and I think its what we need, time together to talk.(I didn't mention she lives in Michigan me in Alabama). I want to spend my life with her, I love her that much. We both wear rigns though not married, but committed.

How do I get her back?

[odinn7]

What are you having trouble seeing here? Read what you wrote to us.

She broke up with you and said it's over. You begged and no response. You then said you will leave her alone if it's really over... she said LEAVE ME ALONE... what else do you need? She is done now.

In my opinion, she has found someone else now as well. She probably got tired of whatever drama both of you were facing and in the last few weeks here, someone else came along that she is interested in.

Either way, give it up.

[Wondergirl]

If the counseling is going so well, why are you having relapses? It's time to tell your counselor that if you haven't already.

It sounds like your moods turn on a dime, are very fluid and erratic. Get that situation improved before you try to connect with her (or have a relationship with any girl) again.

[ibryngg87]

If the counseling is going so well, why are you having relapses? It's time to tell your counselor that if you haven't already.

It sounds like your moods turn on a dime, are very fluid and erratic. Get that situation improved before you try to connect with her (or have a relationship with any girl) again.

I haven't had any relapses since I started the counseling. Not sure where you got that.

[Wondergirl]

I havent had any relapses since I started the counseling. Not sure where you got that.

Maybe not blowing up at her but inability to accept what she says and then hounding her.

[ibryngg87]

Maybe not blowing up at her but inability to accept what she says and then hounding her.

Got you, thank you.

[talaniman]

Do as she says leave her alone. Work on your own issues my friend.