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    May 1, 2013, 11:48 AM
    My husband lost all sexual interest in me since I got pregnant
    Hello, I really need help from those who might have experienced a situation like mine. I have been married for two years to my husband after a long love story. We have a perfect relation and mutual love. We used to have great sex and he always loved my body, but after I got pregnant 4 months ago , he is totally avoiding sex with me. I know I gained some weight which I can tell he doesn't like, may be he doesn't see me sexy any more and he is afraid to hurt the baby.. but, does that mean we wouldn't have sex for almost a year.. I tried to ignore my needs and enjoy living happily without thinking about it, but its hard. We hug and cuddle everyday, and whenever he touches me I feel a strong sexual drive. I tried asking him although it was very embarrassing but he said its psychological, he is just turned off. I feel so hurt that I tried initiating it with him couple of times and I was rejected, he shows lack of interest and now I don't know how to stop thinking about it or even how to settle that with him.. The other problem that is irritating me as well that I started doubting that he might cheat on me, I know he loves sex and I don't know how a man can live for months without having sex.. I'm so afraid and those feelings are making me not able to enjoy all the other good things I have in my life, because away of Our sexual relation everything else is perfect.
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    May 1, 2013, 11:57 AM
    I've had many relatives of mine pregnant and their doctors said sex would NOT hurt the baby. Sex will keep your marriage and love alive and the baby will NOT be hurt. As for the weight gaining, it's a normal part of the process and he should learn to deal with it. Mood swings will come too lol
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    May 1, 2013, 12:07 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by emogirlheart View Post
    I've had many relatives of mine pregnant and their doctors said sex would NOT hurt the baby. Sex will keep your marriage and love alive and the baby will NOT be hurt. As for the weight gaining, it's a normal part of the process and he should learn to deal with it. Mood swings will come too lol
    I asked my doctor in front of him if it's safe, and she said its absolutely safe and nothing will ever happen to the baby. He ignored what the Dr said and he says it's not turning on when I know there is a baby inside you
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    May 1, 2013, 02:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Algerian View Post
    I asked my doctor in front of him if it's safe, and she said its absolutely safe and nothing will ever happen to the baby. He ignored what the Dr said and he says it's not turning on when I know there is a baby inside you
    Many men feel this way. There are some men that are extremely turned on by their pregnant wives, others can't get over the fact that their wife has a child inside of her. Even though there's no logical reason for them to worry about sex (unless the doctor specifically said that you should abstain) they just are not interested in having sex with a pregnant woman.

    I know its hard on you, since you obviously want to have sex with your husband. But just like you may not want to have sex at certain times, he also has the right to say no. There are other things you can do if he's not comfortable having sex right now. Things should go back to normal after the baby is born.

    Good luck and congrats on the pregnancy.

    You should also know that the previous poster on this thread is only 15, so she really has no clue what marriage or pregnancy entails. It's best to ignore her advice on matters such as this.

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