[astep004]

I have been on and off with the same person for the past 2 years. I have a 3 year old daughter that is not his but he is great with her. We have gone through a lot and it seems that he just tests me to see what he can get away with. There have been numerous times where he has been talking and meeting up with other girls but says they are just "friends". The conversations say otherwise. As I said, we are on and off and I feel that my daughter needs stability. We tried moving in together and I ended up moving out after 3 months because of the fighting. I do so much for our relationship to hold it together but I don't feel I am getting the same in return. It is a constant battle of things I am doing wrong and I don't feel good enough. I am stressed out to the max and he does like to do the fun things with my daughter but any tough things are left to me. I understand that she is my daughter and my responsibility but being with someone who has a kid is not a game and if you are around for long enough, you should be helping out more. Am I wrong? My main problem is that whenever we break up, I can't stay away. If he texts me, then I feel the need to push everything else aside and want to try again hoping for a better future but nothing ever changes. What do I do?

[talaniman]

Stop brushing every thing else aside when he texts because that on/off stuff with things never being resolved is NOT the stability you want is it?

You may have to face the fact that he is not the life partner you need. You certainly have not resolved things, or set boundaries, and rules for good behavior that you can both live by nor move forward for that bright future.

Decide what course you want your life to take and focus on that and don't allow anything to distract or hinder you.