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    immortalitythro Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 21, 2013, 10:49 AM
    After three years of love, girlfriend behavior changes.
    Me and my girlfriend were in love for over 3 yrs. We both were trying for a certain job which requires to pass an exam. Last year she passed the exam and got the job of our dreams. However I didn’t pass it and trying for it this year. Initially she was fine, but few months after she joined her job, I noticed changes in her behavior, the messages came down. When asked she would say, that she is too busy (of course this job demands too much time). She didn’t even meet me on her birthday.

    After few months, I could take it no longer and told her I notice a change in her behavior. She denied it. An argument broke out and when arguing she told me that she lost the belief that I would pass this exam ever and that her family isn’t interested in her getting married to me. Then I told her, that she probably loved the guy who is going to pass that exam and not me, to which she said, ' so that’s how much you understand me'. And again denied any change in her behavior.

    What do I do? Am I wrong to break up with her?
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    Apr 21, 2013, 11:38 AM
    Yes she and her family will pass the guy who will pass the exam. I think in a relationship there are lot of things besides love and attraction and financial stability is big issue for many. I think you should ask her what does she want? It seems she is also expecting you to pass this exam besides her family. Question is what do you want? Do you want to pursue this exam? If not then mention it clearly to her.
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    Apr 21, 2013, 11:49 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by smkanand View Post
    yes she and her family will pass the guy who will pass the exam. I think in a relationship there are lot of things besides love and attraction and financial stability is big issue for many. I think you should ask her what does she want? it seems she is also expecting you to pass this exam besides her family. question is what do you want? do you want to pursue this exam? if not then mention it clearly to her.
    Yes, this job is my dream. I am going to pursue it. But I don't see love in her behaviour, so I think I am going to break up with her.
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    Apr 21, 2013, 11:51 AM
    You are better served by focusing on the exam, and not the relationship. She has enough pressure from her family without you adding to it.
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