[mimitata]

:confused: Hi everybody,

Today I’m very sad and need you help again. Last night one of my good friend called after a long time and unfortunately my mobile was with my BF as his mobile was out of order and he wanted to receive few important calls. So, I let him take my mobile. But after few hours he called me at office and stared asking me if I have any other affair. I was completely surprised, as he is the only guy in my life. I tried to explain him that the guy who called is my good friend and he is soon getting married with my elder cousin sister. Even after knowing the person that he spoke with once in past, he kept telling me all nonsense things. This is not the first time that he is suspecting me with my good guy friends.
And just to avoid all fights I have even stopped talking, calling or even receiving their calls. He told me to call that guy tomorrow and tell him not to call me again. But it’s too hard for me to do this, as he is not only my friend but also like my brother. I know him for a long time, even before I met my BF.
My BF knows every thing but he still he says that he was end the relation if I keep any contact with other guys. I love my BF and don’t want to live without him, but can't even live like this. I need a little space in life. Please advice.

[Skell]

Your boyfriend sounds like a very jealous, manipulative and controlling person and one who I would not care to be in a relationship with. He has no right you order you to stop talking to your friends and if I were you I would not allow him to control you like this.

There appears to be no trust on his behalf and that is a massive red flag in a relationship. The reason perhaps that he doesn't trust you and suspects you of such things maybe because he is guilty of what he accuses you of. That is a common theme.

I think you need more than a little space from this guy. I think you need to run from him and get as far away as possible. He isn't a very nice person by the sounds of it.

Good luck!

[talaniman]

Don't let this fool control you to the point you have no friends, or no life, but him, That is unhealthy for you. Tell him, NO WAY, and if he wants to take his marbles and go home, good riddance , leaving you free to get a real man, and show you real love, and as a bonus, real happiness.

[momincali]

Don't go another minute with this controlling jerk. Life with him will be very difficult, if not scary. He is only trying to make you feel like he doesn't trust you so that you will fear him leaving you and you will do anything he says. I say let him leave and hold the door open for him. A man like this is not worth having, too much work, too little pleasure in return. He will slowly make you tear away contact from anyone and everyone that is important to you so that you are left alone, with only him. He thinks this is how he will control you best. Is that the kind of life you have been dreaming of?? I hope not. Leave this man immediately and don't let him change your mind. You can and will find someone who will not place all of these ridiculous demands on you. Someone who genuinely cares and loves you.

[shygrneyzs]

Ditch this control freak now and avoid a huge headache and heartache later. You have every right to speak to who you want to, you have the right to maintain your friends and speak to those you want to. Call your bf's bluff here and tell him that he has no right to dictate your personal life and if he feels so strongly about it, then kiss his behind goodbye and good riddance.

There are many guys out there who would never ever think of pulling that kind of power play on their girlfriend. What your boyfriend is doing is disrespectful, unloving, uncaring for your feelings, definite lack of understanding, and just being a total jerk. He cannot handle someone who maintains an element of control on their own life, so he has to threaten you in order to keep his hand on you. Shame on him. You know better than this. You know you deserve better and it would not be that hard to find better.

Stand up for yourself. Don't give him any more of your personal power. Be good to yourself and show him the door. Good luck.

[s_cianci]

I have to agree with the other posters here. This guy has some massive jealousy and control issues. This has bad news written all over it. I'd steer clear of this one.